[Karlam1991]

I'm not sure how to react. He said I have anger problems but I only get mad at him no one else. A small problem makes me get angry easily. Also he has no job I paid for everything! He says I'm stressing him out so he needs a break.
But that I can't see other people and I have to keep my engagement ring on.
It's also almost my birthday/thanksgiving & Christmas.
I'm really sad.

[Leed]

He needs a break, huh. Does that mean that HE doesn't see other people too? I wonder.

If you do have anger problems, you'd be better served by seeing a therapist. Get a referral to a good therapist. You need to find out where this anger is coming from and why. You might be surprised! Therapy was probably the best thing I did for myself in my life. And I'm sure it will turn out that way for you too.

I wish you the very best -- Take care and keep us posted, ok? God bless. Hugs, Lee

[Karlam1991]

Originally Posted by Leed

He needs a break, huh. Does that mean that HE doesn't see other people too? I wonder.

If you do have anger problems, you'd be better served by seeing a therapist. Get a referral to a good therapist. You need to find out where this anger is coming from and why. You might be surprised! Therapy was probably the best thing I did for myself in my life. And I'm sure it will turn out that way for you too.

I wish you the very best -- Take care and keep us posted, ok? God bless. Hugs, Lee

To Lee
Thank you so much!

[Harley47]

I think Leed gave excellent advice that I hope you can follow. If you do actually have anger problems, a therapist can help you uncover and "diffuse" the source of it. Additionally, your fiance can't help but see you trying to make improvements in that area, and I can't imagine why he'd keep on this "break" if you're trying to fix things. I do share Leed's note about seeing others though. I hope he is following the same rules you are.

Please know you're in my prayers, and God bless.

Hugs,
Harley

[Stranger516]

Originally Posted by Karlam1991

I'm not sure how to react. He said I have anger problems but I only get mad at him no one else. A small problem makes me get angry easily. Also he has no job I paid for everything! He says I'm stressing him out so he needs a break.
But that I can't see other people and I have to keep my engagement ring on.
It's also almost my birthday/thanksgiving & Christmas.
I'm really sad.

If a break is what he wants, than give him one. It isn't the end of the world if he asks for a break. He asked you to marry him aka SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH HIM. No reason to be too upset. So what he got a little upset and aggravated at you because your anger got to him. It will blow over.

Just know that when you are in a relationship you have to make sacrifices for each other. It is important that you try to recognize when you get angry for trivial reasons and to stop yourself from acting out in that emotion.

You'll be fine.