[msconcerned]

Close friend that I've known for half a yr, someone I speak to every night on the phone for at least an hr, suddenly out of no where stops contact. No way to reach her, haven't responded for at least 2 wks.
Single mom, long distance friendship.
Now, she and I became intimately closer as time passed, but no relationship was formed (not that I know of). She's extremely straightforward (no filter), so if it was fear of commitment or a new love interest, she'd be straightforward with me.
Our last conversation was about her child's birthday. So that wouldn't have triggered any miscommunication.
How does someone I've never met in person, whom I'm not together with, influence me to a point where depression is kicking in.
How do I help myself?
Yes we developed feelings for each other and was honest with each other, but that was 2 wks prior to her sudden MIA.

[Jan1212]

Well she was your distraction to get thru your day, now that's not there anymore, you have that time with nothing to do, so possibly taking up a hobby, or watching new tv series... is the depression coming from her or from the emptiness and certain void in your life? Don't waste time being depressed for someone who doesn't care to contact you.

Originally Posted by Jan1212

Don't waste time being depressed for someone who doesn't care to contact you.

While to an extent I agree with this, it's not just someone but a person he's been in contact with daily for 6 or more months. I wouldn't necessarily write her off either.

Hopefully nothing has happened to her, that is pretty sudden but you act as though you shouldn't be attached to someone just after 6 months. Well 6 months is a short time but a lot can happen in that time when talking to someone daily for an hour at a time! It's not unusual that you're feeling a void and probably missing her. I don't blame you.

I do agree that you should find something to occupy your time that you would have been spending with her talking for now. I hope that it's just something that has kept her from talking to you but after this long I'd give it some time, and try to keep from freaking out too much. If she continues to not contact you, at some point it's true you should just move on.

[msconcerned]

Here's something that bothers me a bit. For these 6 months we've been planning to visit each other (about to purchase plane tickets for next month). I was stopped by my friends, and asked to wait till she responded. We were ready and excited to see each other, and plans were beyond just "I can't wait to see you." but also, who I was going to meet, and things we were going to do together. (I'm a she by the way.) I got attached to her because although 6 months sound short, however, if you talk every night, and text throughout the day - it eventually became our routine. Our conversations would never end till one of us fell asleep. Same time every night, endless topics. What bothers me is, my heart grew close to her and her daughter. I have a phone filled with their pictures, 6 months worth. Biggest problem is, being lovers isn't as important as knowing whether or not she's safe and sound. I worried to a point where yes depression strikes me on and off

[msconcerned]

Originally Posted by Jan1212

Well she was your distraction to get thru your day, now that's not there anymore, you have that time with nothing to do, so possibly taking up a hobby, or watching new tv series... is the depression coming from her or from the emptiness and certain void in your life? Don't waste time being depressed for someone who doesn't care to contact you.

Depression came from earlier on this yr. It's from years and years of suppressed stress from coming out early this yr, dealing with ppl and discrimination and the emotional rollercoaster that I was in with my ex. This person came into my life amongst many others that I've met online who has become good friends with me through time since my getting better. It's the void in my heart. I am well aware of that void and won't ignore it. But I've learned. Not to fill it with others. She's just someone I fell for through time - 6 months of nonstop communication through all means. It felt deeper than what I had with my ex. I guess that's why I'm having such a hard time.

[msconcerned]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

While to an extent I agree with this, it's not just someone but a person he's been in contact with daily for 6 or more months. I wouldn't necessarily write her off either.

Hopefully nothing has happened to her, that is pretty sudden but you act as though you shouldn't be attached to someone just after 6 months. Well 6 months is a short time but a lot can happen in that time when talking to someone daily for an hour at a time! It's not unusual that you're feeling a void and probably missing her. I don't blame you.

I do agree that you should find something to occupy your time that you would have been spending with her talking for now. I hope that it's just something that has kept her from talking to you but after this long I'd give it some time, and try to keep from freaking out too much. If she continues to not contact you, at some point it's true you should just move on.

I admit. My heart became attached. I thought it would only be my mind being attached (being occupied), but I was surely wrong. My heart fell in despite the fact I've never met her in person. Her sudden disappearance have torn me apart the same way my ex broke my heart. I...just don't know how to let go of this, without knowing she's alright.