How to start after 31 years, wife past away.

My wife of 31 years passed away and i have no clue where to start again.
I have never been out without her being next to me.
Have hard time to sit in a restaurant alone(McDonalds too).
Now scared to death to talk with other woman,may talk stupid things.
Going to Bars is harder, never drink, due to medical issues.
How and where can i start?

I would start online, not in bars. Then drinking is a non-issue. I would also try baby-steps, such as joining a book club or volunteering or something like that, just to get out and talk to real people, not necessarily to date right away.

Best.

You're looking at this as a mountain rather than as a gradual process. There's no reason to rush into things with another woman, though I understand that it must be difficult to not have your wife around.

Meet people as friends. Join groups (check out meetup.com for ones in your area), maybe try a singles club. Pursue things that you're interested in, meet people that are interested in them as well, and work from there. There's no reason to hurry.

Hi Pango ~ I kinda disagree about the online thing. I think that's dangerous. People are seldom what they portray themselves to be, and you COULD end up with some woman looking for a "sugar-daddy." I think you should stay with the "real" people, and do what Sesame suggested. Start with baby steps, go to libraries, join book clubs, join a senior center (if you're old enough), find things you're interested in and pursue those things, go to concerts, etc. I'm sure you'll begin to meet people. And don't worry about what to talk about. It will come easier in time. Just smile and be friendly. Let the other person begin the conversation!

Best of luck and God bless! I wish you all the best. Hugs, Lee

Hi Pango. I am so sorry for your loss.

Don't look at this as one huge challenge. Break it up into parts, and gradually ease your way into it. This isn't a singular objective or one huge block. It is the culmination of many smaller things into something wonderful.

Try to take it easy...gradual, small steps, with you moving on to slightly larger things each time you get more comfortable. That, I believe, is the best way.

Good luck, and God bless.
Harley

Thank you for all the great advices and you all right about not knowing where to go and what to talk about.
I have to fight within myself as you all have said and start living and with baby steps,and taking care of whom i meet.
I will write more as days go by.
Thanks again