[Curious D]

Hey guys just wanted to ask for an opinion, I have run ins with friends and some family members every now and again where I may become the brunt of their jokes now I'm an easy going guy and can take the odd few ribbings every now and again but what do you do when people just don't catch the hint that they are getting annoying.
I've been in situations where they can go on and on about the same old joke about you or just make you the centre and only attention of all their jokes and when you say enough guys your pissing me off then " your too serious" I haven't been able to sort this out and I'd love some feedback, thanks guys

[thickntired]

Originally Posted by Curious D

Hey guys just wanted to ask for an opinion, I have run ins with friends and some family members every now and again where I may become the brunt of their jokes now I'm an easy going guy and can take the odd few ribbings every now and again but what do you do when people just don't catch the hint that they are getting annoying.
I've been in situations where they can go on and on about the same old joke about you or just make you the centre and only attention of all their jokes and when you say enough guys your pissing me off then " your too serious" I haven't been able to sort this out and I'd love some feedback, thanks guys

Hello and welcome,

I am ultra sensitive when people make fun of me for anything. I think because I have so much anxiety in social situations that I'd rather not be there. IMO you might want to just walk off when they start in on you and ignore them. If they can't get a reaction out of you it will soon be boring and they will have to move on to other stupid, childish entertainment.

Peace & Hugs,

TnT

[layla11]

Hi, it sounds abusive to me. Enough is enough. Try to take the next step after you tell them enough, get up and walk away and tell them no more. Sometimes when people feel bad about themselves they put others down. I know how hard it is to take up for yourself, especially when your being confused by being the brunt of their hurtful humor then sarcasm, and then being put down even more. You are confused because they are confusing you. This is a life lesson you will have to learn, their are lots of people like that in this world. Little by little you will learn to deal with it when these people come along. Your okay just the way you are.

[Leed]

I agree with the others. You could say something like "I've had enough" and just get up and walk away -- or say nothing at all. Some people are just plain stupid and continually making someone the brunt of their dopey jokes is just plain rude. I don't think they would like it if they were on the other end of it.

I'm sorry this happens to you. It shouldn't happen to anyone. God bless and please take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee

[wounded1]

How about saying "Yup, you're right. I am/I should have...HOW ABOUT THAT ELECTION?" My family used to tease me all the time and I found when I agreed with them and then made a quick subject change to a non-personal controversial topic they forgot all about me!

I grew up with a brother that made it a goal of his to constantly rip on me, in front of friends, family, my friends and everyone at every given opportunity. The hard part is their lame answer to your retorts are alwasy "you have no sense of humor" and "you're too serious" My solution, at whatever point they don't get your comments to their jokes, just leave the scene, if you can. Even if just to another room or part of the house/place. First thing it does, you've already voiced your complaint, it didn't work. This gets you out of the situation to re-coup. Second, it brings attention to how their behavior is not going to be tolerated. It makes it clear under no uncertain terms that you will not be there for them to use as their butt of jokes. Thirdly, it stops them, since all their focus was on you at the time, you being gone will leave them no alternative but to refocus their attention. At the same time, it breaks the cycle and could possibly make them think about what they were doing. Done in a consistent manner, I believe it can actually change things for you. This is all just my theoretical idea but I think there's some truth in it and hope it helps.