[pheonixashes]

I'm struggling to get over my ex. Our relationship wasn't perfect, but we were together off and on for six years and I'm still in love with him. Truth is he never did treat me very well. I was always at the very bottom of his list of priorities, being outranked by dungeons and dragons. I know I should've broken things off with him years ago instead of holding on and trying to make things work (sometimes love just isn't enough). He was always the one to call it quits then beg me to give him another chance. When I'd take him back things would be great for awhile, then he'd start getting distant and our cycle would repeat. This time around he broke up with me days after my grandmother passed away and confessed that he was already getting involved with someone else. This took me by surprise, I thought we were finally in a good place and on the same page. He had asked me to move in with in him and we were starting to plan our future together.
I'm trying to get over him while grieving for my grandmother. This is a really difficult time for me. I just reconnected with an old friend, and he's been really sweet. Only problem is he wants more than friendship, more than my broken heart can give right now. I'm trying to decide if I should give him a chance. He's a really great guy, I'm just afraid of getting hurt again-though deep down I don't think he would hurt me. I'm lonely and confused. Any opinions are welcome!

[LadyShadow]

This is tough, and its late so bear with me.

Honestly, jumping into something so soon won't be good for you.

If I were you, I would tell him you want to take things superslow and continue to be friends and be there for each other like you are now.

Getting over someone is hard enough as it is, and you are grieving for your grandmother which is a sad time as well. Just don't jump into anything is my advice. If he is truly your friend and wants to be with you, he will wait till youre ready. Nothing shows true colors more than patience.

[Leed]

I have to agree with Platinum. Right now isn't a good time to begin a new relationship. You'd be on the rebound, and that isn't fair to the new guy, nor is it fair to you.

Besides, while grieving, you're not thinking clearly and that isn't fair either. You need to be able to properly grieve, and give yourself time to heal. Grieving is hard enough without having to think of someone else's feelings as well. YOU are the only one that's important right now. You and your emotions. I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear grandmother. Please know I'm sorry.

Give yourself time before starting anew with this guy. If he waits, you'll know he really truly cares for you. If he doesn't then you'll know he wasn't THAT into you. God bless you my friend, and please take care of YOU. Gentle hugs, Lee

[pheonixashes]

Thanks, you guys are right. Besides I don't even have time to start a relationship, let alone the desire to put myself through the grief that would come with it.