3 years and I don't feel the same

Okay I've posted a few times before wondering why I didn't feel the same about my girlfriend and I think I'm now begining to understand it all. I don't wanna type and essay but I'm looking for some good advise to why I might be feeling how i am as this is my first serious relastionship.

Okay so when I met my current girlfriend she lived 144 miles away and i didn't see her lots but at least 2 times a month, she was at university at the time and to be honest for atleast 2 years of us being together she lived down there, I used to go down at christmas and pick her up and listen to christmas songs and get really hyped up, then we would end up arguing as per. In the holidays I would always see her a hell of a lot. Anyway when I left university around 18 months ago I hit Major depression and it made me really Ill I lost 2.7 stone in weight and ate 200 calories a day sometimes none, I was always crying and couldn't sleep and felt guilty all the time. That passed and really strained the relastionship however as I was pretty much over the MD she ended the relastionship and went to Ireland with uni for a week and ignored all of my messages. This was around 10 months ago. This made me fall into another spell of MD until I met another girl in some really strange circumstances, my ex girlfriend wouldn't even make contact with me until a photo of me and this girl appeared on facebook and straight away she contacted me.

This girl i met was abit mental but man she was fun, real fun! And to cut a long story short I chose to go back to my ex. When we were back together I was so so happy, but as time has gone on I've slowley drifted away from her, I've moved out of home with my cuzen and we go out all the time I have atleast 3 girls interested in me (not been big headed sorry) and it's like really fun!! We are practically split up in a sense of me having to lie saying im at work so I don't have to text her and seeing her once a week, I almost feel hate towards her :S.

How can you go from loving a person and not wanting to leave them and spend lots of time with them to this? I mean I'm acting like an animal but I love it! I feel alive and excited about life, not just staying in watching tv and eating tea... That's not fun, I no longer can play xbox for 4 hours at a time It's boring! I now go to the gym I'm looking good people have asked me for photos and said I look 'fit' or 'hot'. 16 months ago I wanted to get engaged to this woman and now I just don't want to look at her, I hate the fact i have to text her... Like now I'm avoiding texting her but if someone else texts I'm smiling.

I don't wanna make the mistake again going back.

I just dunno how I can feel like this it's so different :S I've been feeling it for a long time too, I wonder if the fact I'm with her causes me to be depressed now?

ANY advise please would help

Danny
x

Maybe you're still hurt over the fact that she left you back then?

It sounds like you are ready to move on. There is no need to explain or justify your feelings. What if you are honest with her and tell her kindly that it is over?

You sound like my ex husband only you're not married to the girl. If you feel this way better to break it off sooner rather than later. Kinder in the long run.

It just sounds to me like you've discovered that life can be fun -- you've got other women interested in you, instead of sitting home alone. You have 3-4 girls attracted to you now, life looks good, and now you don't need this long-distance relationship anymore.

There's nothing wrong with that. She broke up with you once. She dumped you UNTIL she saw a picture of you with someone else and THEN she wanted you back. Hmmm, kinda strange wasn't it? Well, now you can put up a picture of you with 3 or 4 girls. LOL But anyway, why not send her a very nice text, and just tell her that the relationship isn't working out, and that you think it's best if you two don't contact each other anymore. Be nice about it -- but end it. That would be the best thing to do. then just get on with your new life! Life is GREAT, RIGHT? Hugs, Lee

I too think that you sound like you want to move on. People change, and what was right then may not be right for you now. You are young, enjoy life!