[doggiedo]

I have been texting a "friend", a guy I met online and went out with a few times. I told him the spark wasn't there but we still kept in touch. We text a few times a day, and I've found myself replying on him as a friend. I realize he's not..he's really nothing to me.

I do this a lot. People that don't matter to me, I get attached and I bet they don't care less about me. I dated this one guy a year ago and we still talk on text and on fbook. I decided not to talk to him anymore either. Maybe I'm putting these people in a position of being my "friends" but they aren't really anything to me.

I think maybe it's less of a risk if I am friends with them bc I don't know them? They can't judge me, or so I think. Again, I probably mean nothing to them. But letting them go, I feel like I'm getting dumped all over again. I feel alone and like no one with ever like me. Maybe they are filling this emotional void for me. Who knows I just feel lame and I feel like I can't have any "appropriate" relationship right now.

[Travelinglady]

I suspect your analysis is correct. At least you can feel like these are people who care and are your friends.

Are you in counseling? It might help to talk to a professional about this issue and about ways to develop real friends. I'm sure you are somebody people would like as a real-life friend!

[doggiedo]

Thanks, but no, I'm not in therapy right now. I think I'm just lonely and willing to attach to anyone at this point.