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Old Feb 11, 2013, 07:35 AM
LB_mitralvalve LB_mitralvalve is offline
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How do you tell someone you have a crush on them? I mean what's the best strategy to use without appearing to be a blabbering idiiot? There is a guy I have a crush on.. told him and think I may have offended him.. hmmmm

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Old Feb 11, 2013, 01:58 PM
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I find this happens all the time (at least to me). Someone gets offended if I tell them I have a crush on them/have feelings for them. Telling him is all you can do.

I'm probably going to get ripped a new one for this, but I don't care...
The best strategy to tell someone you have a crush on them is don't. They always get pissed/offended. Maybe they should make the first move for once, you know?

In a perfect world I would have also suggested to avoid having crushes on people, but unfortunately we don't have complete control over that.

But anyway, just leave the guy alone for awhile and if he as any ****, he'll eventually come talk to you. And if not, screw him—don't waste another second on him.
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Old Feb 11, 2013, 08:37 PM
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Why did you change your name though? What is up with your mitral valve - do you have a mitral valve prolapse? I liked Secretum! Maybe I will get used to your new name in time.
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Old Feb 12, 2013, 03:41 AM
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Why did you change your name though? What is up with your mitral valve - do you have a mitral valve prolapse? I liked Secretum! Maybe I will get used to your new name in time.
I didn't change my name... I don't believe we have met? My name is Lynnea and yes I do have mitral valve prolapse. I am one of ACc gals alters and right now.. confused.
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Old Feb 12, 2013, 05:53 AM
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How do you tell someone you have a crush on them? I mean what's the best strategy to use without appearing to be a blabbering idiiot? There is a guy I have a crush on.. told him and think I may have offended him.. hmmmm
I think its sometimes nice to tell someone, after all, they may have felt the same! If your guy is offended, then he needs to grow up a little. Its so flattering having someone think of you in that way and certainly nothing to feel offended about. He may feel a little awkward for a while if he doesn't feel the same, but certainly not offended.

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Old Feb 12, 2013, 09:14 AM
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I say if the person you are interested in is single then by all means let them know. There are situations however such as if you two are really close friends and you don't want to make things awkward or potentially ruin things that might make some people hold back on their feelings. Every situation is different so go with your gut feeling and good luck
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Old Feb 12, 2013, 10:42 AM
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Crushes can occur though you are in a perfect relationship or marriage. Nobody can be sure when it happens. However, we can handle it.

I agree with Scotty if they are single, and you are single, let them know. But in some cases, people you have a crush on might not like that. They feel offended, think about how they feel before you do it. And please choose the right moment, the right way, somehow subtle, to express your feeling.

If you are in a good relationship, as I stated, please don't cheat on your partner. Or if you have problems with your boyfriend/girlfriend, just deal with them to find out the solutions or break up before falling in love with your new one. Let's think about if the new one can make you happier, or "the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence"

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Old Feb 12, 2013, 10:49 AM
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I didn't change my name... I don't believe we have met? My name is Lynnea and yes I do have mitral valve prolapse. I am one of ACc gals alters and right now.. confused.
Oh I see. Then you and another gal are using the same avatar. I have mvp too.
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Old Feb 12, 2013, 02:40 PM
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I think its sometimes nice to tell someone, after all, they may have felt the same! If your guy is offended, then he needs to grow up a little. Its so flattering having someone think of you in that way and certainly nothing to feel offended about. He may feel a little awkward for a while if he doesn't feel the same, but certainly not offended.

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It is certainly flattering. If he was offended, he has not yet learned the rules of courteous behavior. Forgive him for it. Hopefully your next crush will conduct himself better.
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