[justme1980]

i been in this relationship for almost 3 years now and i cant seem to communicate with him correctly his angered easily and when i try to talk things threw it just gets worse i stay calm but he gets louder and more angry and tells me im crazy and i dont understand i tell him i do understand i just dont agree with him he stays mad for hours it does not let up unless i have sex with him sometimes then he lets it go but i can tell he still a lil mad sometimes its over lil things he gets mad at i dont know what to do i want to be able to communicate with him but i guess i dont know how i dont want to lose the relationship i want to improve it what should i do just listen to everything he says and do it even if i dont agree what do i do how do i communicate with him

[Leed]

You shouldn't have to do things that you don't agree with just because it makes him mad if you don't! It sounds like he's a big bully. You two need counseling badly.

Do you think he would go to couples counseling? You two need it! He also has a problem with anger and could use anger management! But you two need to learn how to communicate without someone getting angry. This relationship is NOT going to make it until you get some counseling. You are being ABUSED right now in case you didn't know it! He's ABUSING YOU. Why do you stay and take that kind of abuse? Most women would NOT. You need to find out why you're staying! So both of you need counseling.

See if he'll go. If he WON'T go, you should go anyway to find out why you're putting up with this nonsense. If you don't, then every relationship you get into is going to be the same. You'll let every man abuse you. See what you can do about couples counseling, okay? And let us know what happens. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee