[dpadilla89]

wow, i havent been on these forums in ages!! Anyways, i need advice if anyone could maybe possibly help me out. I havent seen my father in a few months because of his bad behavior i witnessed AGAIN. A few days ago i saw him for the first time in a while and we were talking about what had happened the last night i saw him, he basically told me that hes the parent and he can do whatever he wants, meaning if its right or wrong. what he does..is not nice, hes violent. it really hurt to see that he didnt even apologise nicely or even rec. what he did was wrong, he just made excuses for himself constantly throughout the convo. I also notice that in a way, its like hes brainwashing me to be like him, and i do see alot of him in me at points when i get angry. heh.
part of me wants to see him because hes my dad, but the other part says stay away..im miserable whenever i see him. i dont want him to act that way towards me again, after that night, and hes done similar in the past. whenever i come to my moms house (home), im miserable, depressed, bad mood..angry, etc. i dont want to be that way anymore, when i saw him the other night i came home like how i used to act which isnt too good. i dont know what to do anymore...i want to see him, but i dont want to suffer for it either....

should i see him or no??

thanks!!

[Rhapsody]

So YOU do not live with him - right?

While I am not really sure of your age..... I do know that you have the right to not see him until he can control his anger..... emotional abuse is no different than physical or sexual abuse.... and we would not let him get away with that.... would we?

LoVe,
Rhapsody - ((( hugs )))

[desirae]

If he makes you feel that horrible, what I would do, so he's unable to talk back, is write a letter describing how he makes you feel, then tell him that your decision on continuing this relationship depends on him and his behavior.