Finally confronted my abusive father - he said "it never happened"

I couldn't believe it. He told me I was "creating false memories" and that none of what I said ever happened. He said I was "evil" and "full of hate" towards them (him and my mother). He said I was praying to the "wrong God" and nowhere in the Bible could I find justification for what I was doing to them.

Basically it was a 15 minute conversation of him saying "It's not true" and me saying "Yes it is". Finally I told him I was done and hung up on him.

At one point he said "if he did ever call me a ***** so what?" I told him that it affected me for the rest of my life and how could he say "so what?"

So surreal.

This man beat me with a leather belt for asking to spend the night with a friend. He told me no and I started crying and he started beating me. He accused me of being PREGNANT when I was home sick from school - I was 11. He began calling me "*****" and "jezebel" all the time when I was 11 years old up until I was a teenager. He was verbally abusive to our whole family. Still is to my mother.

She has always taken his side. She has always denied any of what I have said ever happened. Now I heard it from him. I still am so surprised. I guess I expected him to apologize for it. Right.

Anybody else been through this?

I am sorry you too have suffered thru such an at emotionally disturbing event with people that were supposed to love and protect you...... I went thru this with my own mother and step-father and that is why I left home at the young age of 15 and never looked back.

I had no other choice as I was the deemed the evil seductive one at age twelve when my Aunt asked my mother why I hated my step-father so much and from there we ended up in court (finally I thought it is over) - boy was I ever wrong...... for even the judge and social worker blamed me (an undeveloped chest less 12 yr old) - all my step-father got was a slap on the hand and my family turned against me...... mother included.

I can remember the hell I went thru during the six months my step-father had moved out of the house after court was over....... my family and mom blamed me for him having to be away and for destroying the family.

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As an adult I can remember my step-father having a talk with me so he could apologize for what he did to me all those years back and then I recall him denying it all a few years later...... telling me that it was all in my head and that I am the crazy one - not him.

But then my day of awakening came a few years back when I finally did not care who knew what or who said what and I let it all out when we were all over my parents house one night (mom & step-father, yes they are still together) - I told both of them how I felt about what they had done to me emotionally and how I hated them both for the destruction of my life.... My SOUL was set FREE that DAY.

<font color="purple"> ((((((( HUGS ))))))) for YOU </font>

I just cannot believe that he totally denied ever saying any of the horrible things he did to me. And, I'm just mentioning a few incidents. I have blocked out most of my childhood because he was such a mean bastard. He yelled and cussed at all of us. Beat me and brother with his leather belt. Was mean and uncaring. And, called me a ***** all the time. I really cannot stand him.

I'm sorry for what you went through. It makes me SICK that our own parents turned their backs on their children. My mother is 100% on my dad's side. She thinks I'm an ungrateful b!@#.

I'd love to read more posts about this subject.