I don't care about him...he drove me nuts, and I ended it with him (in the end) after back and forth breakups.
But I adored his children and I know I was a great "step-girlfriend" to them. His daughter loved me and I loved her...she wanted me to marry her father and asked me all the time about it. My heart broke when I split up with him because of her. Now the idea that someone else gets to spend the rest of her life with them (she has a twin brother) and see them grow up and be there for them makes me feel so incredibly sick.

Hi tractionbeam, i feel for you. Its hard when a child is involved, and its hard to move on in my opinion regardless. At least you are over him. I have a jealous streak so knowing that my h is moving on was difficult. It wasnts good quality by the least, just got used to it with so much time gone by. Nice to meet ya

Originally Posted by kelly4519

Hi tractionbeam, i feel for you. Its hard when a child is involved, and its hard to move on in my opinion regardless. At least you are over him. I have a jealous streak so knowing that my h is moving on was difficult. It wasnts good quality by the least, just got used to it with so much time gone by. Nice to meet ya

Oh yes, if I care for the guy it's always hard, and I do get jealous then...but never had children involved before (and oddly enough, not cared for the guy at the same time). Thanks and its nice to meet you, too.

[roads]

My best friend of 20 yrs dumped me, and as time passes I find it's her 10-yr-old grandson I miss and worry about the most. Odd, eh? I'm sorry. It's too bad we can't all be civilized enough to manage these things better. Be as okay as possible.
roadie

Its better you not stay in a relationship for someone because of the child, as the child will eventually grow and no longer be there.

Originally Posted by LolaCabanna

Its better you not stay in a relationship for someone because of the child, as the child will eventually grow and no longer be there.

Well yes, I broke up with him in 2010.
I have grieving issues, but you are probably getting that by now...

[henrydavidtherobot]

My parents are divorced and my mother had several boyfriends throughout my childhood and I have gotten close to a few. I missed them, but they will still an important part of my childhood. Try to think of that. You're still important to them.

Originally Posted by henrydavidtherobot

My parents are divorced and my mother had several boyfriends throughout my childhood and I have gotten close to a few. I missed them, but they will still an important part of my childhood. Try to think of that. You're still important to them.

I doubt he said anything nice about me when I was gone, and we had no closure, I never got to say goodbye.