[doglvr]

My husband told me that the balance on his credit card is 14K. I cried for an hour and told him to leave for the night. He cut up his credit card and told me that he would sell his personal things to pay it off (I'm not sure what to believe any more). I'm glad that at least I know some of the story but am very angry that he told me a year ago that the balance at that time was almost paid off.
I don't know what to do.....

[tinyrabbit]

Do you want to stay with him?

Speak to a debt advice charity, you don't have to deal with this alone.

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

Do you want to stay with him?

I'm not sure that she implied she wanted to leave him over this. Just in shock it sounds like :/

[tinyrabbit]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I'm not sure that she implied she wanted to leave him over this. Just in shock it sounds like :/

I honestly wasn't sure and figured it best to ask before giving advice.

Originally Posted by doglvr

My husband told me that the balance on his credit card is 14K. I cried for an hour and told him to leave for the night. He cut up his credit card and told me that he would sell his personal things to pay it off (I'm not sure what to believe any more). I'm glad that at least I know some of the story but am very angry that he told me a year ago that the balance at that time was almost paid off.
I don't know what to do.....

it sounds like he has a serious spending addiction and generally speaking, most people with addictions tend to hide those things, right down to outright lying about it if they have to. It's not something he is proud of deep down and knows he was screwing up so had resorted to hiding it as so many do. Let things cool down about this and talk to him calmly about getting his spending habits under control. Something you can work on helping him with together. more than the debt itself, his habits are the problem. I hope it's not a bigger problem such as gambling but thats not necessarily a given, he could just like to spend as maybe it makes him fill a need in himself - not in a good way but you know..

Just because he's hidden this and even lied to you about this, does NOT mean that he's lying about a lot more or everything. I can understand your distrust but try not to assume that at this point.

I hope you can work this out with him.