[sweetthinker]

Would you stay with a man who has given you a concussion, if you were financially dependent on him?

I got into a physical fight with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago, that resulted in me having a concussion.

I am trying to put the pieces together, and it has been physically and emotionally tiring to recover from this? Thanks for your input on my above question.

What is the best way I can find my way out of this, become financially independent, and not be afraid of living alone?

[Leed]

No, I would NOT stay with a man who abused me like that. I'd find any way I could to get away from him. I'd ask friends if I could stay with them until I could get on my feet, find a job and be able to afford a place of my own, or if my family would let me live with them, I'd go there -- if family isn't too dysfunctional, that is.

I'd do anything to get away. You're in too much danger. And if you're afraid to leave, call the police and ask them to escort you OUT of the house so he won't put up any fuss! They can't give you a ride anywhere, but they can follow you wherever you're going.

I wish you the very best. Please let us know how it comes out. You're in danger right now and it's important you get OUT. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[hamster-bamster]

Because of the risk of imminent harm to you, you should get out immediately utilizing any resource including women shelters. Once safe physically, you can work towards financial independence and conquer your fears. First you need to remove yourself into physical saafety.

[~Christina]

NO .. Leave now. As the others said , friends? family? woman shelter.. Any where AWAY from him !

Stay safe !

Well it depends what you mean by saying you got into a fight with him. Who initiated it, who threw the first punch, was it a direct concussion or were you concussed by accident? All these things are important.

[winter4me]

Doesn't matter who threw the first punch. If you are getting into physical fights with someone it is time to GET OUT

[IceCreamKid]

I suggest you find a woman's shelter and ask for help with these issues. You need empowering to stand on your own and to become self-supporting, and self-affirming. I send you love and courage and hope.

[Permanent Pajamas]

Originally Posted by sweetthinker

Would you stay with a man who has given you a concussion, if you were financially dependent on him?

I got into a physical fight with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago, that resulted in me having a concussion.

I am trying to put the pieces together, and it has been physically and emotionally tiring to recover from this? Thanks for your input on my above question.

What is the best way I can find my way out of this, become financially independent, and not be afraid of living alone?

Oooh boy, no.

Sweetheart, get out of there. There are shelters and foodstamps, food pantries and entry level jobs. There are rent-controlled apartments and public transportation and vouchers to use that transportation.

Contact a women's shelter or Social Services in your county. They will help you.

You don't have to live that way. Nothing good will come of staying with him. Protect yourself.

Stay in touch with us so we can support you as you move through the process.

[Aiuto]

This is Bad.Did you press charges on him?I don't know if you know the whole background of a concussion and post concussion syndrome.Have you guys been fighting for a long period of time in this relationship?You need to leave and focus on you!You need to reach out to family,friends,shelter whatever away from all ties of that!!!

[monarch_butterfly]

I would NOT stay. If finance is an issue you could probably get into HUD low income housing as an emergency case. I too recomend contacting a womens shelter or a domestic violence counsler who can help keep you safe. Even a hospital.. if you walk in and tell them you don't feel safe in your current living situation. They will assist you.

[Aiuto]

sister site Neurotalk forum Traumatic Brain Injury(concussion)

[adam_k]

I think personal safety should be the number 1 priority for anyone. There isn't any finanical justification for hurting someone. It sounds to me like he thinks since he pays the bills he gets to punch you when he feels like it and that is not right. No one deserves to be harmed by another person. You should keep yourself safe above all else. If that means leaving them I would leave. If he hits you, I would press charges againt him. Keep yourself safe.

[Perna]

I do not think I would stay with anyone who battered me. I would think of my situation as widely as I could, all friends, relatives, difficulties, public and private agencies/non-profit sources and see what I could cobble together for getting going on a different lifestyle.

I don't know what you want for yourself; it could be possible to go to school, for example, and have housing paid for also; there are shelters, homeless and women's; I don't know what friends or relatives you have, I would personally rather put up with possible emotional ugliness from relatives than physical abuse.

If you make a plan for yourself, to move yourself in a direction of your choosing, everything else gets more bearable because you are working for a purpose of your own and what other people are doing/saying is not quite as important.

[brokenandalone1234]

I would not stay with a man like that. If he hit you once that hard he will do it again. You need to get out as fast you can before things get worse. He will say he is sorry and turn around and do it again. Neither one of you should of hit the other one but he was dead wrong for putting his hands on a women. No man should ever put his hands on a women no matter the reason. Any man that does is not a real man he is a little boy masking as a man. I know that some "little boys" will say well she hit me first so I defend myself there is a huge difference between defending yourself and abuse and what he did was abuse not self defense. You need to leave or things will only get worse.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by sweetthinker

it has been physically and emotionally tiring to recover from this?

It is especially tiring because you have not removed yourself from danger. You need to remove yourself from danger to begin recovering.

Originally Posted by winter4me

Doesn't matter who threw the first punch. If you are getting into physical fights with someone it is time to GET OUT

I still think it depends on the circumstances, and there were no details in that opening post.

Originally Posted by sweetthinker

Would you stay with a man who has given you a concussion, if you were financially dependent on him?

No.

What is the best way I can find my way out of this, become financially independent, and not be afraid of living alone?

Why are you afraid of living alone? More specifically, why are you more afraid of living alone than living with someone who gave you a concussion?

As for what you should do, the only solutions I can think of at the moment involve illegal actions, so I'll keep those to myself.

[hamster-bamster]

Michael made a very good point. It might be scary to live alone. But it is less scary. Than. Being maimed or dead.