I met a woman a few months back. I really liked her, never felt more alive then when I was with her!! Slowly things built up over time to the point where I wanted more from her. She kept telling me to slow down I though I heard her but my actions seemed to contradict it. I had her in my life but I couldn't stop the incessant texting, calling or contacting her. Now she's completely out of my life because of my lack of self control. She told me I freaked her out badly!! I feel awful I made her feel this way!! She's a awesome woman!! It's a life lesson learned but it doesn't make me feel any better knowing I freaked her out!! I would for another chance with her but that is not possible!! Now I just want to pick up the pieces....mourn what I've lost, understand what I did and why I reacted the way I did......and never let it happen again!! My heart is shredded by my own stupidity....I never want to feel this way again!! Any suggestions to ease the pain?

[DianaCW91]

I wish I could give you some advice that would ease the pain and help you get through this. But the old saying is, I'm afraid, true. Only time can heal. I know that does not help much, and time seems like it is taking forever. But it will pass. Try to do things you like to help distract your mind a little. *hugs*

[Glyxia]

If you really love her..do anything just to get her back .. and promise that you wont do the things that you used to do before ... But if everything did'nt work out .. you just need to accept the truth, move on and if you really love her you will understand her decisions ..
always remember that everything happen for a reasons and someday you will find out why those things happened Cheer Up ! i hope this will help

[Perna]

First I would quit beating up on yourself; you really enjoyed this woman and she was "just not that into you" it sounds like. You are not horrible or stupid, you just really liked her and she was not able to return your feelings. When my husband and I met, we would stay up all night talking (before cell phones :-) and just want to be with one another; that's what the attraction part of love does! But if you have someone who is frightened of relationships or isn't that interested in you, etc. it's not going to go well.

There will be other/another woman and you'll know to go a bit slower until you are sure she is interested and wants you the way you want her.

There is a difference between infatuation and love. While it can be very flattering when someone is infatuated with another, it does not make for healthy relationships. What is your plan for not repeating this mistake? Do you plan on taking future relationships more slowly? I hope you will not mask the hurt by jumping into another relationship and repeating the infatuation error.

[Irreplaceable]

Leave her alone...This sounds like borderline stalking. I'm a woman, the ***** will make you RUN the opposite direction if a man does this... Calling and texting non stop. If I don't answer, that means I don't want to speak with you because you scare me and I want you to leave me alone. Stop contact before she calls the cops. My advice is to learn to listen and don't do too much. I'm not trying to be funny. She told you that you were doing too much, and you kept going.

Let me tell you a secret, a woman doesn't like it when it a man is too available and act clingy and needy. ESPECIALLY when you first meet a man. I'm not saying that is what you are, but that is probably how she views you. Don't do that the next time. Go slow, be laid back, and don't put all of your feelings and effort immediately upon meeting someone new because you can scare them off. I'm telling you what I know because I am a woman and I've had men do what you did and because I know of women who have gone through this and how much of a turn off it is. I don't like men like this. Give me a chase. Don't act so clingy. Let me know you want me but don't smother me and act out in ways that show that you have stalkerish tendencies. I had a guy do this before. We met one time and he acted like he lost his mind. I immediately stopped returning calls once he kept calling back to back to back non stop. I'm not trying to be funny, but next time just relax and go slow. Do not call or text too often.

Originally Posted by Irreplaceable

Leave her alone...This sounds like borderline stalking. I'm a woman, the ***** will make you RUN the opposite direction if a man does this... Calling and texting non stop. If I don't answer, that means I don't want to speak with you because you scare me and I want you to leave me alone. Stop contact before she calls the cops. My advice is to learn to listen and don't do too much. I'm not trying to be funny. She told you that you were doing too much, and you kept going.

Let me tell you a secret, a woman doesn't like it when it a man is too available and act clingy and needy. ESPECIALLY when you first meet a man. I'm not saying that is what you are, but that is probably how she views you. Don't do that the next time. Go slow, be laid back, and don't put all of your feelings and effort immediately upon meeting someone new because you can scare them off. I'm telling you what I know because I am a woman and I've had men do what you did and because I know of women who have gone through this and how much of a turn off it is. I don't like men like this. Give me a chase. Don't act so clingy. Let me know you want me but don't smother me and act out in ways that show that you have stalkerish tendencies. I had a guy do this before. We met one time and he acted like he lost his mind. I immediately stopped returning calls once he kept calling back to back to back non stop. I'm not trying to be funny, but next time just relax and go slow. Do not call or text too often.

It's been a long time since I've been on this forum. Reading the advice I've seen here, I must say I'm grateful....to total strangers. Who came forward and offered there advice. I different in a better for the experience. It was a memory and learning experience and it are these memories that make us better human beings. I was embarrassed then at my behavior and when I think of it I definitely cringe how I acted then.....but because of those painful memories I am we're I am today, a much better man for having gone through it....and very thankful to have gone through it and become educated by it