anyone here like gameplayers????

I mean people who play games with other people...I think that is the saddest way to behave...what do you all think???

Hmm -
Why is that? - how is it any different than us talking to each other on here? (just wonder)


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

Hi Mystry,
I don't like gameplayers either. I like people who can be straightforward. It takes character to be able to come out and tell someone whether or not you're having a problem with them or something they've done or said.
I put up with a lot of that when I worked in offices with the office politics.
Hang in there, Mystry.

OK - I am confused here...........
but I thought YOU were talking about actual GAMES online - Eeeek! - forgive me for I am getting old - lol.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

I completely agree with you Mystry.

The only thing is.... some people perhaps don't realise they are "playing a game".... I don't know though, the whole thing confuses me.

I believe in being honest and I also try to forgive people. So it hurts like hell when I am not "forgiven"..... ok I think people know that about me by now

Hang in there,
Fuzzy

Hi Mystry,

I detest gameplayers. I am finally to the point where I can be totally straightforward and honest about how I feel. I expect the same in return. It's so simple, really. I don't understand the whole concept of people who play games. I have let a few long time friends go because there was too much gameplaying going on, and I don't want any part of it. I have had enough, and I respect those with integrity who can actually tell me what's on their mind. I think that we all deserve respect.

Sujin

Yes... to be a friend is to really act as one. The person who wants to have a friend, must also BE a friend. No games!

This is the way I see it. Friends walk half way each!

I didn't think so...nobody in their right mind wants to be played and yet I have a friend who just can't see it...she is so taken with this guy that she makes excuses for him...he told her he lives in the states but his address points back to canada...I know there are apps that you can use to hide where you are from but there are ways around that...I just hope she doesn't get too involved before she finally comes to her senses...

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So it sounds like you were once at a point where you didn't feel comfortable being straightforward with your emotions. Did you act that way just to irritate people, or did you maybe have some kind of reason for acting in that way? I only bring it up because I think that some people play games because of insecurity, fear, etc. It's not just someone trying to play with you, but someone with a problem that needs compassion.

Just a thought.

games...................well, the theory goes we all play them, and we all play them out of awareness. the end result is always a bad pay off, where we feel bad. but its that bad familar feeling (we all know this i think) where we feel comfortable but familiar, familiar because we are used to experiencing it.

some people are more "gamey" than others

the thing i try to remember is if i find someone is playing a game with me, then i am in the game, it takes 2 to play. so the choices are play the game in awareness or find a way to not be a participant (which of course is a lot easier said than done).

xx

I guess I don't really buy into the concept of 'gameplayers'. I see "secure people" and "insecure people". I don't dislike insecure people at all -- but I am careful around them because the "games" that we talk about really seem more to me like efforts to reinforce their own defenses at other peoples' expense.

I don't know ... in part I agree with LMo, especially since the times that I have 'played games' it has been out of frustration/insecurity ... i regret what i did in a way (involved a guy i was seeing who had a gf that he didnt tell me about and she went nuts n starting calling me all the time and hanging up).

but then again i think i was insecure ... however i have seen some people who i dont know if they are insecure or just manipulative/vindictive types ..

? I don't know. interesting topic.