[snow in july]

It has been some time that the little things have made me question him.
Is he telling me the truth? why does he hide things from me?
Why all of a sudden does he meat me for a lunch date, he is late of course however when he shows up his eyes are glassy and his skin is glowing and he looks wonderful! He looks at me like I havent seen since we were first dating and says to me. Oh, you just dont know how much I really love you. This sounds like a dream come true and at the time I felt like I was being swept off my feet for the first time by Romeo himself, how fantastic! what a wonderful lunch after lunch we walked around the mall and came to the jewelry store and he says lets look at those wedding rings. We went to the store and he actually inquired how much the mens wedding rings cost?
He looked at me and I said, "honey, you havent had a wedding ring in 8 years what makes you all of a sudden want to buy a wedding ring?"
He reacted upset and acted cold and distant after I said that? Acted like I didnt understand where eggs come from little own why he was all of a sudden interested in buying an expensive wedding ring which we couldnt afford?
He all of a sudden was talking about weddings and rings and it just came out of no where?
To me it was odd? why where is this coming from is it something out of the ordinary is it normal? I didnt understand?
So I just went with it, I acted like we were going to have a second wedding and I started to talk about dresses and what would he think would look nice and what would he like to do and how ? He dropped the subject all together and when I asked him about it he said nothing to me he just acted like he didnt hear me?
A few mo's later I was looking at his computer from work and clicked on excel the first thing that popped up was a wedding planner?
I thought what? why would a man have a wedding planner on his computer at work?
It just seemed odd or out of place to me? I asked him about it? he said oh, those are just templates that come with Excel. I said sure and dropped it. I called MS software products up and asked if that came with excel they said no it does not, it is a third party software product.
He brought his computer home and I clicked on the program again which had dates and prices and said your wedding is set for 400 days from now. June 14 2014 I dont know is this standard or what? Anyhow I asked him about it again in a joking way and he said I told you silly it is a template that comes with Excel.
What should I make of this?
I didnt mention that he has also changed in to many ways to count lost weight hair different lies constantly about things I know he is lying about new music new sub. he likes new plans he mentions makes love differently just lots of things he is almost like a new person?
any advice or opinions are welcome

[Travelinglady]

That is strange.....Could he be on drugs? (Glassy eyes)

I have heard that people can learn new techniques from other people.

I'm like you, I'd be suspicious. But I can't say for sure. But why would he want to get a ring for you? And did you two not have your ideal wedding?

Could he be manic?

I guess I'd keep looking for other clues before I decided, anyway......

[NWgirl2013]

Um...he's lying about the software...and planning a wedding? To you? It really doesn't sound good, sorry. I guess I would do some more checking. Soon.

It sounds sort of like a hiding in plain sight kind of thing...

Too many changes, too many lies that you know about. I would stop asking him.

[separatedgirl]

As a "victim" of cheating, I would be checking on other things. Does he let you see his phone? His email? Is he bipolar or anything? I was cheated on during a major manic episode. And within a week he was planning his wedding with her while still living in our home. Trust your gut!!

[snow in july]

thanks for the replies.
I agree! I cant track him or check his phone or his computer. Me, finding this application was completely by accident. I dont believe he thought I would be looking at his business Doc's so he didnt concern himself about it. Like you said, hiding it in the open is his way of doing things Ive noticed. And he seems to tell sort of truths just enough to leave suspicion and not really a clear answer to anything and sometimes the things he tells me doesn’t match up at all? When I point it out he says I dont remember and maybe Im going crazy?
He reacts to me like I am a FBI covert spy on a mission and he is extremely defensive if I inquire about anything or, he just doesnt answer or react to me at all.
As far as the wedding ring goes….
He was only looking for a wedding ring for himself not for me never mentioned getting me a new ring at all come to think of it.
Now I find what looks to be eye shadow dust on the dash of the car? I dont wear eyeshadow? Maybe it's just me to woried?

[hamster-bamster]

I have never planned weddings but I am familiar with EXCEL and want to confirm that no, such templates do not come with EXCEL. They must be third party software products.

All of it is just outrageously weird.

Also... again, I have never planned weddings, but I assume that in this day and age there are password-protected websites for planning weddings - just as with everything else. The websites usually offer a better user experience than EXCEL templates so it is weird that somebody would opt for an EXCEL template. Also, an EXCEL template is locally on his computer and findable by you. A website can be used via private browsing (every browser offers that - it is called different names, but it is available everywhere) without leaving traces on his computer. In other words, if he wanted to deceive you in such a MAJOR, MAJOR way (planning a wedding is a major thing; nobody has posted such a story on here), he could do that better with a website. That he would use EXCEL sounds completely ridiculous.

[Neptune83]

You could ask him outright, are you cheating on me? To gauge his reaction. It's all very bizarre, initially, I thought perhaps he may be planning a surprise wedding for you but you're already married? Renewal of vows? I would be suspicious also, but I try to find an innocent explanation too. I hope you get some answers soon for your peace of mind.