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Apr 22, 2013, 02:49 PM
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I have been dating a man for nearly two years. In the past week I have noticed a few red flags : not responding to texts for long periods of time, texting from two different phones work & personal, not being as attentive as normal, numerous posts from lady in his city, visiting his family who live 20 minutes from me but he didn't come see me. He had his boys and said there wasn't time. Yesterday he deleted Facebook after I asked about other lady. Deleted a pic of us on Twitter-said it was an accident, favorited pics of two women on Twitter who were seductively dressed, changed time setting on Facebook so I can't tell if he is on or not- after I mentioned he was on but didn't respond to a text. Doesn't want to put we are in relationship on FB until I meet boys, which he says will be soon. About a year ago a girl was texting him and he deleted the texts in front of me when I asked to read them. He lied about being somewhere,but when I researched it he finally admitted lying. It seems like he always has a reason. Other than that, he treats me well, says he loves and wants to marry me. He lives 100 mikes away and visits every other weekend. I am perplexed. If I am reading to much into the recent things, I don't want to lose him. If he is lying about deleting Facebook page ( says it just happened and he didn't do it )., then I can't be with him due to lack of trust. Ideas?
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Apr 22, 2013, 10:52 PM
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Before I respond, and just to make sure I got it right: your man deleted his Facebook profile and claims it was an accident/he didn't do it. Is that correct?
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Apr 22, 2013, 11:07 PM
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IF it looks like a duck....quacks like a......he's got something he's hiding. Can it be worked out? Maybe. I hope you get to the bottom of this before you end up wasting trust on someone who might not deserve it. Update us when you get the chance.
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Apr 23, 2013, 05:11 PM
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Yes, he said that he didn't know how his Facebook got deleted twice, blamed it on ex wife. I drove 125 miles last night to discuss it face to face. I was honest with him and told him that based on all the things that had "happened" accidentally with his Facebook and technology, I was having a problem trusting him. This morning he gave me his pass word and reactivted his facebook. All personal messages were wiped out including mine. Then I went to archived messages and sure enough there was a flirtatious message between him and a lady who is is friends sister. She is married. She asked if he was coming down this past weekend and a girl could hope. He said" "ya never know, we may have to meet somewhere. She said, " I do owe you launch I promised you. He said " mmmm. She said, you make me say mmmmmmmmmm.
Then a few minutes later the message was gone. Luckily I had taken a picture of it. I asked him again if he had been texting someone. He said no. I told him what I found. He said he didn't delete it and it meant nothing. That his mmm was about lunch. I left and told him he had some thinking to do. He texted and said he will always love me. I am just sick as I really care about him, but I am not stupid. His vehement denial that he hasnt done anything wrong is making me crazy. |
| Anonymous32810, anonymous82113, anonymous91213
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Apr 23, 2013, 06:38 PM
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You know, even if he isn't playing away from home, he's not treating you with respect, making you feel secure, and he seems to not take you seriously. For example, deleting the text messages from someone in front of you instead of letting you read them.
Apart from screaming that this man isn't trustworthy, he tells me that he just doesn't take you and your feeling seriously, he doesn't respect you. If you asked to read the texts, he should've let you as you had good reason to want to read them. And why have you not met his boys after nearly 2 years? I can understand not meeting too soon, but 2 years is a long time and again, he comes over as hiding something. I agree, he sounds like a duck. I think you deserve someone who doesn't play games with you. I know he says he loves you and wants to marry you, but words can come easy for some. Its actions that really count, sorry chick. |
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Apr 23, 2013, 06:40 PM
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Apr 23, 2013, 06:47 PM
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Apr 23, 2013, 07:19 PM
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Nobody has ever reported an accidental deletion of a FB account, either by themselves or by their SO's. FWIW... I am afraid to do so myself for fear of pressing a wrong button, but you should try deleting your FB account, counting how many steps it would take, but without pressing the last button. I bet you will know by the end of that exercise... |
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Apr 24, 2013, 09:27 PM
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I know that it's not Facebook that makes it official, but -- on top of what everyone else has said -- I don't see why a man you have been dating for two years will not say that you two are in a relationship together. A respectful partner would be proud of their relationship.
He sounds like bad news.
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