I have a coworker who invites me to dinner with his family every so often. Probably because i am s ingle. The only thing is that its not fun. I never feel relaxed. I don't get to really know them since they have 4 kids running around and the wife is preparing dinner. IT ends up feeling like I'm just a guest at dinner at their home. How do i politely turn the invitation down?

The biggest problem is that I have already said yes b/c I didn't know how to say no. Is there a way for me to get out of this?

plz help...

[(JD)]

How about saying, "No thank you." You shouldn't feel obligated to agree. I'm sure there is a reason for his inviting you, if you wish to not feel only like a guest, then why not ask him why he invites you without inviting a single guy for you to check out?

How would you like them to make you feel, btw? Do you want to help cook or set the table??? Do you want to sit and chat with the co worker? I don't really understand your situation other than you feel uncomfortable. That's enough for me, btw... to just say no.

sorry.. it just feels like im there to view his children and get a meal. which is great. but it makes me feel sad. He is very involved with his kids. and i feel strange by that. I just had a really hard session this week about SA and I don't think I could take it.

[(JD)]

There ya go! Say, not this week, thanks!

[Lexicon78]

I usually make up excuses not to go...I just tell people I'm busy or something like that.