[doggiedo]

Do u ever find yourself wishing that a relationship, or in my case, a marriage, never happened? I don't often think that way, but I really regret ever having married him. My life would be so different than it is now. It makes me very sad.

[MusicMike]

I just posted about a woman with severe depression who I got entangled with, and I'm having a very hard time getting untangled, so sometimes I think to myself I would rather that I never met her.

[winter4me]

Oh yes, I have wished this. But then, I realize I cannot know that what "couldawouldabeen" would be better and the relationships I have & have had---well, each one brings something new, I learn,
time moves on, the light changes on the subject, this is who I am and these are the choices I have made..................many wishes, like fish, swim in the stream and sparkle for a moment in light that falls through overhead leaves, I dream and then walk back out into the light of plain day and, if it is a good day I laugh, a sad day, I hope to cry...

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by doggiedo

Do u ever find yourself wishing that a relationship, or in my case, a marriage, never happened? I don't often think that way, but I really regret ever having married him. My life would be so different than it is now. It makes me very sad.

I had an annulment, that means, it never happened? Where do the kids come from?!

[TanyaP]

Originally Posted by doggiedo

Do u ever find yourself wishing that a relationship, or in my case, a marriage, never happened? I don't often think that way, but I really regret ever having married him. My life would be so different than it is now. It makes me very sad.

It's common to regret about relationships you aren't happy with. But it isn't a good thing at all! Unfortunately, you cannot erase a part of your life, and you should just learn to look at it as not a misfortune or tragedy but rather as something to learn from. Most mistakes in life can be corrected or used as a learning experience. If you have a hard time learning that attitude on your own a good counselor could help. If you end up building that sort of approach one way or the other, it will help you grow into a much happier person. Regrets are always pending on us and although never changing our past, they are bringing negative experiences into our future.. So do try your best to get rid of them!

I don't, not anyone. Not even the man who was mentally controlling and ended up abusive, as weird as it sounds. The reason why is I took a long time out from dating (and I'd had enough of it anyway) and just sorted myself out. Had I not, I probably wouldn't have been together enough to make the relationship with my fella I have now last & be good (for the most part!). In a weird way, the abuser made me grow up, get strong and appreciate good things/people - before that I rarely dated for long before I dumped them. I look for the silver lining!

So no, I don't regret any of them. I hope you find peace with yours soon..

Hugs.