Yes, we have broken up unfortunately. She was probably too attractive for me anyway, and she was pretty smart too, she was good with technology, and I am not. Although I think I am a better writer than she is. I was a bit jealous of her ex, even though he was abusive, he seemed to have his life together.

She was pretty grown up as well and I still live with my sole surviving grandparent. I never felt comfortable.

Do you think I should post my ex's picture here? I wouldn't be able to get her consent . . . but her picture is already on google images, so i don't know.

Let me know if you think it's appropriate.

Anyway.

[Sabrina]

I am sorry your relationship is over. Break ups always hurt.

I don't think it is appropriate to post her picture though. Even if it is on google images. And especially without her consent. It is a total violation of her privacy. I am sure she is very beautiful and I am happy for you that you got to experience a relationship with her even though you are hurting right now.

Yeah I don't feel that it is right to do that either, but sometimes my moral compass is off.

[tinyrabbit]

Nope, don't post the picture. I'm sorry to hear this, though.

(((hugs)))

[hamster-bamster]

Time to chat up the kind grocer

I am cyber-stalking her at the moment. She is probably smarter than I thought she was.

Apparently she has 54 followers on facebook . . . how do you get followers on facebook? I am impressed with how she has that.

She also has a "Call" button on her profile. wow.

I want to know how she did all that.

[maggy.ng]

sorry spam
I just broke up with my bf today. He is a womanizer, so, i cannot and dont want to handle anymore. Though Im cool with it. I didnt believe i can get over it like that. I thought i'd feel worse. It still is but just a little.
Sorry that you broke up either.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I am cyber-stalking her at the moment. She is probably smarter than I thought she was.

Apparently she has 54 followers on facebook . . . how do you get followers on facebook? I am impressed with how she has that.

She also has a "Call" button on her profile. wow.

I want to know how she did all that.

https://www.facebook.com/help/201148673283205/

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

https://www.facebook.com/help/201148673283205/

I guess . . .

[hamster-bamster]

And the gentle grocer? In the meantime, while learning the tools offered by FB?..

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

And the gentle grocer? In the meantime, while learning the tools offered by FB?..

I am not looking to date anyone else at this time. I am still jealous and cyber-stalking my ex.

She had her birthday party yesterday. Seems unaffected.

[TanyaP]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I am cyber-stalking her at the moment. She is probably smarter than I thought she was.

Apparently she has 54 followers on facebook . . . how do you get followers on facebook? I am impressed with how she has that.

She also has a "Call" button on her profile. wow.

I want to know how she did all that.

Having followers on Facebook doesn't really mean much. One can have friends and followers on all the social networks in the world, and it only shows they spend much time online, not much more.. Normally out of hundreds of people we talk to online and offline it's only a few that mean anything to us or really interest us as more than "someone to chat to". If your breaking up with her was because you were jealous due to her being popular, it's not a smart reason for break up.. But maybe you had other reason for it, i don't know. In whatever case, what's done is done and just hope you get over it soon enough..

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I was a bit jealous of her ex, even though he was abusive, he seemed to have his life together.

Surely that is an oxymoron? Nothing to be jealous of there I don't think...

Hope you'll be ok soon.. try not to cyber-stalk. It can halt healing and moving on.

Hugs.

apparently she is with someone else already. Sounds like she met him just over the weekend.

[seeker1950]

IT...sorry you are going thru this. I admit to some cyber-stalking myself after breakups. Well, maybe not "stalking," but looking them up on the Internet. Seems their lives went on. I learned to let it go. I hope the same for you. In some cases, like mine, and maybe yours....we just wanted answers. There were none.
I tend to be obsessive, going over past experiences and wondering what I could have said/done differently. (Actually, I no longer do that, but I can identify because in the past I have done that!) Proudly, I can say, I refrained from actually contacting the ended-relationship person. Instead, I worked on my own mindset. I hope you will do the same!

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by TanyaP

Having followers on Facebook doesn't really mean much. ..

Having Followers' also means that those following cannot post on walls. It can also occur, when a friends request is sent, and then the person decides to not accept right away, and voila, followers are formed.

Less people posting on walls can create less drama. And also, one doesn't see their followers updates on FB timeline.

Break ups hurt. What is to be gained, by seeing what's going on in her life? I'm curious to know...

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

apparently she is with someone else already. Sounds like she met him just over the weekend.

Sometimes, feeding the inner anger can be part of the process of getting past the hurt. Feeding the pain. Yep, been there...