[k89158]

my mom and my dad are happily married but since my dad literally define the word "workaholic" my mom and him don't spend that much time together and since dad is not home pretty much all the time me and my mom is really close with each other.
now the problem i got is for the last 2 or 3 weeks she's acting really really weird around me.
she's 34 years old and when i'm around she act like a lil girl. i mean she start to pick me after school (again), she wants me to be at the house with her pretty much all the time, do not like to see me with another girl, made my girlfriend breakup with me (she went to my girlfriend's house and told her to stay away from me) and when we're home she wear these borderline inappropriate clothes for a mom and act like i'm her boyfriend.
i mean if we gonna watch a movie or a tv show then she wanna cuddle with me and one time i said "mom just stop it" and she said "you're the only one i got kev, why are you so mean to me.?" and just ran to her her room and cried for over 2 hours and the main reason i thought to write this to you guys is 2 days ago she came to my room in the middle of the night and tried to spoon me and when i asked "mom what the hell is doing.?" she just laugh like a teenage girl and kiss me on my temple and said "i just felt so lonely in my room so i came to stay with my big boy"
so as you can see i can't tell this to anyone without embarrassing my mom and i don't wanna see people calling her names and stuff so if you guys can i would really appreciate a lil piece of advise (i'm 17 btw)

[Leed]

Oh boy! It sounds like your Mom is having some real problems. For one thing, she's desperately LONELY. She doesn't know what to do about it, so she comes to you. That's not appropriate.

She needs to get out among people her own age. Doesn't she have any friends? Doesn't your father let her go out? Do they EVER do anything together?

What kind of work does your father do? Does he HAVE to work all the time?

Can you have a talk with him and tell him that you "suspect" that Mom is very lonely? You do NOT tell him what happened!! That is not your responsibility, and unless something else happens that's not appropriate, don't say anything. But he DOES need to know that she is VERY LONELY. He has GOT to start spending more time with her.

She also might need therapy. This loneliness may have gone into a severe depression which calls for therapy. There is NO SHAME in therapy, ok? That does NOT mean that someone is nuts. It just means that someone needs some help in dealing with some issues that COULD have started as far back as their childhood. That's what happened with ME. My childhood was awful, but things didn't really start showing until I became an adult. THEN I needed help in dealing with them, and I'm so glad I went into therapy. That MIGHT be what's going on with your Mom.

So talk to Dad about Mom's loneliness, ok? See what he says. Let's hope he spends more time with her. God bless you my friend, and you're really a great kid for caring enough to come here and talk to us. Take care and will you do us a favor? LET us know what happens??? I'd appreciate it. Hugs, Lee

[k89158]

Originally Posted by Leed

Oh boy! It sounds like your Mom is having some real problems. For one thing, she's desperately LONELY. She doesn't know what to do about it, so she comes to you.

yeah she is very lonely alright and i have no problem be there for her as a friend as long as she don't act crazy

Originally Posted by Leed

Doesn't she have any friends?

well she had some friends but for some reason she no longer talks with them and thnx to that lil stunt she pulled at my gf home now i don't have any

Originally Posted by Leed

Doesn't your father let her go out?

nah he let her to do anything she want

Originally Posted by Leed

Do they EVER do anything together?

that's a big no

Originally Posted by Leed

What kind of work does your father do?

he is a database administrator in wall street

Originally Posted by Leed

Does he HAVE to work all the time?

i think so coz my dad is barely home for anything

Originally Posted by Leed

Can you have a talk with him and tell him that you "suspect" that Mom is very lonely? You do NOT tell him what happened!! That is not your responsibility, and unless something else happens that's not appropriate, don't say anything. But he DOES need to know that she is VERY LONELY. He has GOT to start spending more time with her.

"have a talk with him" now there is something that never gonna happen coz he never pick up the damn phone

Originally Posted by Leed

She also might need therapy. This loneliness may have gone into a severe depression which calls for therapy. There is NO SHAME in therapy, ok? That does NOT mean that someone is nuts. It just means that someone needs some help in dealing with some issues that COULD have started as far back as their childhood. That's what happened with ME. My childhood was awful, but things didn't really start showing until I became an adult. THEN I needed help in dealing with them, and I'm so glad I went into therapy. That MIGHT be what's going on with your Mom.

see that's the thing i mean she will literally do anything i ask her to do as long as it involves the both of us but if it only involves one of us then in her mind she thinks that i'm avoiding her on purpose and will do something crazy to get my attention