[Heather11]

I have been single now for about 5 years after a 4yr relationship. I am divorced over 10yrs with a teenager. I've had a few dating stints 6mos or less and i had ruled out having another child years ago and now I'm too old... I am realizing that I may have shut the door on finding the right person because I shut the door on kids.
I told myself that I didn't want kids because I had a difficult experience and had to do it alone. I only saw the negatives that having a child would add to the relationship instead of the positives of giving myself another chance with the "right person". It's not like I am considering dating someone who wants kids now (I just briefly dated and let go of an awesome man that Does want kids and maybe that's why I'm feeling a crisis) but it made me think, I passed on a lot of great men out there and the chance at another child and family.
Thoughts?

[Phreak]

The fact you titled your post "regrets" speaks volumes.

Maybe the guy you briefly dated recently who wanted kids is still available?

[healingme4me]

Was having a baby, physically endangering your health? Or was it the strain of being a single mom, and that experience? And your relationship, of four years, ended over the kids topic?

[Heather11]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Was having a baby, physically endangering your health? Or was it the strain of being a single mom, and that experience? And your relationship, of four years, ended over the kids topic?

It's the strain of being a single mom... I loved being pregnant and love kids. My own is just a difficult child and it's not easy parenting him. I knew going into that relationship that we would not have kids. He didnt want and I made my choice and thought I met the right person for me and thought that was enough. i thought i was going down the right path...I pushed what I thought was just a fantasy of happily ever after aside....and now am trying to find it with someone that Doesn't want kids... I really am at a point(age) where I wouldn't have any more. Too late...

[BonnieG2010]

You can meet a guy who has child/ children too.

You acted after responsibility not after selfishness.
You actually don't know how a second child would be.
They don't come with warranties.

Dream for a while a life of single mom with 2 difficult children from different parents.
Can still see the reasons of your choice?
I can.
What if the eldest wouldn't accept him / her and become even more difficult, just because of this?

Now you are telling yourself that maybe this second baby could be perfect and would have added joy to your life. We don't know that. It is possible, but there's no certitude.

Compared to the lots of men and women who just 'have children' because everyone do so, I lift my cup to a responsible mom who could think before and choosing what she thought best.

Have i seen tons of damages made to kids by irresponsible parents!!!

Cheer up!