[punkinpie7812]

I am here for a lil advice . I am dating someone who is real nice. HOWEVER, his 10 year old daughter is Bipolar and ADHD. The issue is that she is NOT stabilized. According to him his neighbors have complained because of her behavior and the apartment complex they live in have refused to renew their lease. Also, she has caused physical damage to the apartment. I am very unsure if i want to take on the responsibility of raising another child with negative behaviors that have caused them to basically loose their home. I have raised a child with ADHD, learning delays,Anxiety, and Autistic tendencies. That child just moved out June 1st. So I've only had a little over week of a less stressed life and again i am unsure i want to go back into a similar situation. What do you guys think??????

Well you are looking before you leap, kudos. Maybe keep the relationship light if you still want him in your life, or you can give him advice since you have been through the same. You are wise to step back and think. It all comes down to what you envision with this relationship and how serious it may become. Good luck!

[hamster-bamster]

I think Lightbulb is right on in all the departments: both your considering a potential commitment to raising a high needs child is commendable, and your pausing to take a breath and re-evaluate your commitments is commendable. Everything is commendable.

I also agree with Lightbulb on the option of keeping it light - without merging households. If you do not live with the child, the damage to property would not be YOUR issue... right?

[healingme4me]

I agree that it's good to take a deep breathe and you are thinking about considering raising his daughter.

Are you considering this, because he has lost the lease to his place?

Moving in together, is one of those things, when it's discussed and when timing is convenient for everyone, not when timing is a forced issue, so to speak.