[DestarKnight]

Im coming to a conclusion about me and relationships. I shouldn't be in one. Someone recently asked me why I don't have a girlfriend. My reply was simple and without thought. My personality. There are few people who could understand me and far less that could tolerate me. A woman came through drive thru the other day and I couldn't help but to think "she's beautiful." Then the thought occurred "what could I do for this woman?" I thought about it and the fact that I haven't been with anyone in over two years sex wise, or a relationship for almost as long, just made it that much harder to think I could do anything for this woman if given the chance. Its disappionting to think about.

[yellowfrog268]

Hey there,
There is nothing wrong with taking some time to sort yourself out. It's actually a good thing that you recognize that you need to work on you before bringing anyone else into the picture. Are you involved in counseling? Sounds like you need some guidance.

Also, why not just date casually? As long as the other person understands that you want to keep things casual it shouldn't be a problem.

[DestarKnight]

I cant get a date for the most part. And its not time to sort myself I need, its just that I have nothing a woman wants. No im not in counciling.

What is it you think a woman wants?

[yellowfrog268]

This may sound trivial but, have you tried chatting to females online through other social forums like those that are based on mutual interests? Could be anything--music, art, hobbies, etc. there are many of them. You may not believe this right now but everyone has something to offer.

[DestarKnight]

Been on a few dating sites, but no luck. And woman seem to want a lot of different things. Everytime I try talking to a girl she losses interest within a week.

Well, looking at the bright side, you're obviously attractive enough to attract these women in the first place :-)
You've just got to hone those dating skills. Of course, what women want out of a relationship does change a little with each person, but I would think that the basics are all the same. To be cared for, listened to/chat easily, not dull - to date someone with some confidence, not too needy, someone with a sense of humour. At least, those were my things I liked, and those of my girlfriends.

I wonder if you have a little bit of low self-esteem? I got the impression of that from your short posts. Do you think, if you are honest with yourself, that it could contribute to why the women lose interest? If not, do you have an inkling as to why? Perhaps that/those things will be the thing to work on.

Hugs

[DestarKnight]

Im lucky to get one girl's attention a year. So not much of a brightside. And low self-esteem isnt my problem. I see patterns that give me a dimm view of what to expect.

Ok, glad you've not got low self-esteem, that's ace.

So it leaves us really with two possibilities. Either you are dating/attracted to the wrong sort of women, or your dating skills are wrong in other areas. I am not sure which it is, but as your original post states;

"My personality. There are few people who could understand me and far less that could tolerate me."

Then I guess you need to take some responsibility here. I do think that if you can be bothered, some therapy may be of use. After all, its never a bad thing to understand where we go wrong and then try to improve ourselves is it? And are there any dating workshops around you area? If not, there is plenty of helpful info online, or books on the matter. It's totally up to you, but you sound fed up with the way things are now with dates losing interest within the week, so in my book, it's always worth trying our best to change things where we can before we throw in the towel. Absolutely nothing to lose.