[alk2601]

I am newly in a relationship with a guy. He's religious, conservative and pretty straight-edged. I'm pretty much the opposite right now. Depression has been kicking my *** this past year and I have serious substance abuse issues. He doesn't know about any of it, and because of his conservatism I'm afraid to share it. Let's be honest, I'd probably run the other way if I were in his shoes. And despite the conservatism, I really like this guy.

Just wondering if anyone has advice about when and how to disclose this type of baggage. Spending time with him helps, but I feel like this facade of emotional well-being is going to crumble soon. When do you tell your significant others?

[gayleggg]

I do it pretty early on before I get to attached to the other person. If he is going to turn away it is better sooner than later.

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[healingme4me]

It's probably better to address things early on. Are you in recovery, right now?

Political differences needn't make or break relationships.

[Perna]

Yes, I'd make sure I was working on my issues, otherwise it probably cannot work out no matter how attractive you find the other person. I think another person without our issues is always going to be attractive? But if we are just seeing them because they help us, I don't think that is fair to them, I would not let them attach to a "fake" me and thus get hurt later on?