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Old Sep 04, 2006, 01:17 AM
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In Relationships and Communication I posted Disturbed Accusations. My Mom accused me of sleeping with my step dad. I took him to the store when she was out doing drugs, and I guess she's convinced herself that we've had an affair.

My point of mentioning this is, I'm the one that is supposed to be hurt, I'm the one that's supposed to be pissed...instead she told me to get the F out of her house and has not communicated with me yet. She's actually punishing me....like I was a seducer or something. She's some how manipulated this situation!....I feel wrong, I feel dirty, that's the power she has over me......I have nobody to talk to me or defend me. Why do I feel wrong and dirty? Why do I feel wrong and dirty? I'm sorry I keep talking about this....I thought I represented myself as a good and loyal person.....I don't get it.
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Old Sep 04, 2006, 01:58 AM
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My heart goes out to you des in this situation....
You have no reason to feel guilty or dirty or wrong!!

You & your step dad know the truth & I am so sorry that your mum is so caught up in her own world to realise that you are being honest & truthful with her!!!!

You can talk to me anytime you need someone to listen!!!
YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG, so do not punish yourself over your mum's behaviour!!!

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Old Sep 04, 2006, 02:05 AM
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Thanks Flinty, that means alot.
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Old Sep 04, 2006, 01:32 PM
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Des, I think you are believing what your mother is saying... somewhere down deep. You are NOT dirty, much less guilty!

DES, THIS IS NOT ABOUT YOU! This is your mother's sick mind at work! If she's back on drugs, then you KNOW it's the drugs talking. No doubt she's paranoid. She's not in control of her faculties! Keep that in mind.

Tell yourself, "this is true; I am a good person. I am a good daughter. My integrity is intact!" Keep saying it over and over until it speaks louder to you than your mother's words.

I understand how it feels when none of your family will stand up for you. Mine don't either. I fight my battles all by myself. Always have, always will.

Wish my youngest would grow some balls, too! His wife comes on here, stalks me, tells lies about me and he does NOTHING! Says NOTHING!

My oldest daughter was abusing her boys. Jerry saw it, John saw it, David saw it, an ex DIL saw it. They did NOTHING! I did and they ALL turned against me!

Des, you have to stand firm in YOUR beliefs and not budge. You have to fight for those beliefs. One belief you have to stand firm on is that you are NOT what your mother is accusing you of! Her mind is sick. Your mind is HEALTHY!

Why do I feel wrong and dirty? Why do I feel wrong and dirty? Why do I feel wrong and dirty? I have faith in you!
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Old Sep 05, 2006, 11:28 AM
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Desirae,

Sorry to hear about mom's tangent lately. You stay fine. Let it go off your back like a Duck lets water off his back.

Also, you don't have to worry. You wouldn't pick her husband, you have one and you are young and beautiful with a kid. Anyway, let her stay alone for a while until she gets her head together, even if she dosen't you have to move on from sick feelings that take up your time and fill places in your head that would be left for betteer things. Just ignore those thoughts repeatedly, I had to ignore them when my family accused me of things. I even had memories that weren't easy to get erased, so just don't let their sickness annoy you. YOu are pretty, young, have a man and have lots of strength, we all do here at this board and are encouraging one another and that is all that matters
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