[HelloWorld18]

So I've realized I'm so desperate to have more friends, that I tend to get extremely jealous whenever I hear my friends are doing something without me, like when my girl-friend posts pics of her with her other friends, I get very jealous. Or today I heard my friend was going to Cali, to which I got very jealous of because I wasn't going.

I know, it's pretty pathetic and stupid. I can't help it. But I know what would help it, is if I made more friends. I'm not very well liked at my current school, so what I plan on doing, is doing online school for the first half of the school year then il return to my school. I should return by January or February, which would mean I would have 3-4 months of my SENIOR HS year to make friends, and maybe even my first girlfriend

Currently, I'm not seen as the ladies man, and many women at my school wouldn't consider dating me. So when I return, what can I do to make the guys at my school think I'd be cool to hangout with and what can I do to make the girls at my school think of me as an option to date?

Many things will hopefully (God willingly) change by then, such as a new wardrobe (Hollister, True Religion, etc.), a new car (3-5 year old BMW or Mercedes), no more braces (or at least no braces on my top teeth), and a brand new physique (ill be working out starting Monday or tomorrow)!

[Leed]

Why do you think going to an on-line school would help? What difference is that going to make? Isn't that going to make it even harder to go back to school? You'll feel like an "outsider" when you get back!!! By that time, everyone will have made their friends, all the "cliques" will be set, and you'll be left out in the cold. Seems to me that you should go from the start.

It just seems to me that you need more self-esteem, and if your parents can swing it, THERAPY would help with that. Going to counseling would certainly help you garner more self-esteem.

All you need to know is that you are JUST AS GOOD as anyone else in that school -- yes, even the jocks, the football players, etc. There is NOTHING WRONG with you, my friend. So what if you have braces!!! These days, braces are IN. At least in MY neck of the woods. LOL The kids around here seem to think that braces are the coolest thing! Go figure.

All you have to do is BE YOURSELF. Don't change WHO you are. Just be you. That's all you have to do. Relax around people -- they aren't any better than you, so don't be nervous around them. Just relax, and carry on a normal conversation!! They are NOT any better than you -- it NEVER MATTERS who's family has the most money. That doesn't determine what kind of person you are, right? From your post, you sound like a very kind, caring, NICE human being ---someone that ANYONE would like to know. So please try not to worry, my friend. You're a great guy.

God bless you and please take care, okay? And let us know how you do. Hugs, Lee

[jadzea]

Clothes, braces and physical build to not make the person. It is your personality and the way you relate to people that is important. I'm not sure isolating yourself for half the year by doing the online school will help. I suggest you just be yourself, smile alot and start talking to people. You may be surprised that people do like you and want to be with you.

You are young. Don't worry that you are not a "ladies man". Most guys aren't. People your age are still maturing and developing their personalities and figuring out what is important to them. You should meet more people who are more in tune with themselves in the next couple of years. Give yourself time.

[HelloWorld18]

Originally Posted by Leed

Why do you think going to an on-line school would help? What difference is that going to make? Isn't that going to make it even harder to go back to school? You'll feel like an "outsider" when you get back!!! By that time, everyone will have made their friends, all the "cliques" will be set, and you'll be left out in the cold. Seems to me that you should go from the start.

It just seems to me that you need more self-esteem, and if your parents can swing it, THERAPY would help with that. Going to counseling would certainly help you garner more self-esteem.

All you need to know is that you are JUST AS GOOD as anyone else in that school -- yes, even the jocks, the football players, etc. There is NOTHING WRONG with you, my friend. So what if you have braces!!! These days, braces are IN. At least in MY neck of the woods. LOL The kids around here seem to think that braces are the coolest thing! Go figure.

All you have to do is BE YOURSELF. Don't change WHO you are. Just be you. That's all you have to do. Relax around people -- they aren't any better than you, so don't be nervous around them. Just relax, and carry on a normal conversation!! They are NOT any better than you -- it NEVER MATTERS who's family has the most money. That doesn't determine what kind of person you are, right? From your post, you sound like a very kind, caring, NICE human being ---someone that ANYONE would like to know. So please try not to worry, my friend. You're a great guy.

God bless you and please take care, okay? And let us know how you do. Hugs, Lee

Originally Posted by jadzea

Clothes, braces and physical build to not make the person. It is your personality and the way you relate to people that is important. I'm not sure isolating yourself for half the year by doing the online school will help. I suggest you just be yourself, smile alot and start talking to people. You may be surprised that people do like you and want to be with you.

You are young. Don't worry that you are not a "ladies man". Most guys aren't. People your age are still maturing and developing their personalities and figuring out what is important to them. You should meet more people who are more in tune with themselves in the next couple of years. Give yourself time.

My mom is making me do online school so I can live with my dad, she's tired of having me but she said I might Come back half way. I already know everyone, I've been going to school with these people since 3rd grade and I'm going to be in 12 next year

[Leed]

I'm so sorry this is the situation, honey. Have you and your Mom always had a troubled relationship? Can you tell us a little about it?

I'm sure this is difficult for you. Do you get along well with your Dad? I sure hope so. Are you able to communicate well with him? Lots of times, fathers aren't really good at talking with their kids -- but you can help him out with that by having daily "chat" sessions -- that is, if you WANT to. Just sit down and talk about your days -- his AND yours. Talk about your fears and what you want for your future, etc. Perhaps that will help HIM to become better at talking with you, IF he needs help.

Again, I'm sorry you're having trouble with Mom. Maybe if you talk about it with us, you'll feel better. But that's up to you hon. We're here tho, if you want to. God bless you honey and take care. Big hugs, Lee PS -- you can private message me if you'd rather talk that way.

[patchwork5]

That kinda sucks. My mom punted me to Dad when I was 15, and it was pretty disruptive. I hope that part goes well for you - but since you didn't ask for help with that, I'm gonna assume your relationship with Dad looks good from here

Like Lee says, feel free to talk, public or private.

Jealousy is no fun for anyone involved, but it sounds like you already understand that. And the approach of getting more friends seems sound to me (if you wanted a hobby that could be done alone, like gardening, I assume you'd pick one up). And looking online (including here) is a fine place to start, so it seems to me you're already doing the right things! Go you! If you like doing things WITH people online, consider online games.

Therapy is our friend too.

[HelloWorld18]

Originally Posted by Leed

I'm so sorry this is the situation, honey. Have you and your Mom always had a troubled relationship? Can you tell us a little about it?

I'm sure this is difficult for you. Do you get along well with your Dad? I sure hope so. Are you able to communicate well with him? Lots of times, fathers aren't really good at talking with their kids -- but you can help him out with that by having daily "chat" sessions -- that is, if you WANT to. Just sit down and talk about your days -- his AND yours. Talk about your fears and what you want for your future, etc. Perhaps that will help HIM to become better at talking with you, IF he needs help.

Again, I'm sorry you're having trouble with Mom. Maybe if you talk about it with us, you'll feel better. But that's up to you hon. We're here tho, if you want to. God bless you honey and take care. Big hugs, Lee PS -- you can private message me if you'd rather talk that way.

No, everything's alright. My mom just wants me out, my dad and I are pretty good. I'm just worried about making friends when I return.