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Old Jun 24, 2013, 04:11 AM
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Alright. I'm gonna do it in bullet points so its short and easy to follow

*Keep in mind, whenever we hangout, we always hangout with our mutual friend. Also, Jayce has a boyfriend"
  • So, back in January or December, my friend introduced me to these two girls. Jayce and Lois, I have a big crush on Jayce, while Lois had a big crush on me
  • When I first met them, we all hungout as a group and went ice skating.
  • Later that night, when I was staying the night at my friends house, Jayce text me asking me to rate the both of them. So I did.
  • The next day we hungout again and went ice skating, this time, she offered to hold my hand to help me stay balanced. That same day, they were talking about going to the movies, she said to me "Oh, you can come too if you can" so I did
  • After the movies I went back to my house, and received a FB friend request from Lois, when she sent it to me, I found her sister and added her sister.
  • The next day, she sends me a message asking for my number, so I gave it to her.
  • A few days later, I receive a random text and voice message.
  • About an hour later, I found out it was Jayce, who got my number from Lois.
  • We started texting, and we text Quite a bit that week.
  • Weeks later we all hangout again, and it went nicely.
    • So a few weeks later, I text her, and she didnt answer. So then I text her again the next day, still no answer. Then, the next day she said "Oh sorry, my phone hasn't been working right" and I just said oh ok (this happened around march)
    • So fast forwarding to yesterday...
    • Yesterday I confronted her about it, and she said her phone isn't working right (saying the same exact thing she did in march. I also said I was getting the feeling she didnt like me much, and she said "no I like you!"
    • so later that night, her and I snuck off to the bathroom with our mutual friends e cigarette to smoke it a little bit (her sister is a huge stickler, and would've told her parents). So her and I took turns. I know adding this isn't much, but since she was willing to share the e cig, that must me she doesn't dislike me, cause who would share an e cig with someone she disliked?
    • Today came around, and everything was ackward between Lois and I, cause I found out Lois didnt like me anymore (she told our mutual friend that she doesn't even like being friends with me anymore (as of yesterday)
    • Anyway, things between Jayce and I were ok, nothing seemed to be different, but when I text Jayce to see if her phone really didnt work so good, she received the texts I sent her, she received every single one of them.

So, does it sound like Jayce said her phone wasnt working right just so she doesn't have to text me? Also, could her sister influence Jayce to not like me? How can I ask Jayce if her and I are still friends? Can I say "Hey Jayce, Phil (our mutual friend) told me that Lois doesn't like me much anymore. So i just wanted to know if you and I are still friends and on good terms?" They're not really that close of sisters, Jayce is the one who likes to have fun, while her sister is a stickler, like, our mutual friend said that Jayce isn't really close to her sister and personality wise their opposite, and they have completely different types of friends. I've also had the feeling that Jayce thinks her sister is extra baggage, due to some of the comments she's made on different occasions.

*oh, and we have talked a little bit through texting, but it wasnt much of a conversation. It was a few texts that were exchanged between the two of us. Every once in a great while, but she was nice in those texts and included the occasional smiley face "(:" *

Oh, and Lois basically hates me now. Apparently I joke too much

I have no interest in dating her btw

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Old Jun 24, 2013, 05:57 AM
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I think you're making too much of the phone incidents. Phones DO get fixed or replaced, you know. What kind of proof do you have that makes you suspicious that Jayce doesn't like you? If you have no proof, why are you suspicious? Don't read too much into things, or you'll drive her off. No one likes someone who acts suspicious. Then that person feels like you're too "needy." That will drive them off in a heartbeat. Jayce sounds smart enough to not pay attention to what her sister thinks, so I wouldn't worry about that.

I'd just continue the way you have. Keep talking and having fun. If it doesn't work out, then it just wasn't meant to be, right? Good luck! Hugs, Lee
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Old Jun 24, 2013, 05:00 PM
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I think you're making too much of the phone incidents. Phones DO get fixed or replaced, you know. What kind of proof do you have that makes you suspicious that Jayce doesn't like you? If you have no proof, why are you suspicious? Don't read too much into things, or you'll drive her off. No one likes someone who acts suspicious. Then that person feels like you're too "needy." That will drive them off in a heartbeat. Jayce sounds smart enough to not pay attention to what her sister thinks, so I wouldn't worry about that.

I'd just continue the way you have. Keep talking and having fun. If it doesn't work out, then it just wasn't meant to be, right? Good luck! Hugs, Lee
... and, try not to rate people, if you possibly can...
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Old Jun 24, 2013, 06:23 PM
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I think you're making too much of the phone incidents. Phones DO get fixed or replaced, you know. What kind of proof do you have that makes you suspicious that Jayce doesn't like you? If you have no proof, why are you suspicious? Don't read too much into things, or you'll drive her off. No one likes someone who acts suspicious. Then that person feels like you're too "needy." That will drive them off in a heartbeat. Jayce sounds smart enough to not pay attention to what her sister thinks, so I wouldn't worry about that.

I'd just continue the way you have. Keep talking and having fun. If it doesn't work out, then it just wasn't meant to be, right? Good luck! Hugs, Lee
Would it be a bad thing if I asked her that question? Like if I asked her on fb if her and I are still on good terms or should I just wait till I see them again? I asked our mutual friend, and he said that she wouldn't be influenced by her sister. Next time I see Jayce, how can I tell if her and I are on good terms? Like, will she not pay attention to me or what?

I'm trying to make amends with Lois, jayce's sister, but she isn't answering her texts or fb messages. I found out that she doesn't like being my friend cause I joke too much, so I told her on fb that I only joke around with people I consider I'm good friends with, but she hasn't even answered and fb told me she saw the message. Here's the thing though, she hasn't deleted me as a friend on fb. She only has 42 friends, and she's told me several times she only adds people if they're her true friend. So it'd be extremely easy to remove me as a friend, why do you think she hasn't yet? It's been 3 days now.
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... and, try not to rate people, if you possibly can...
Well, at first I said no I'm not gonna rate them. Then my friend said no they want you to. So I gave them a good scor just not to be mean. Like I gave Jayce a 8 and her sister a 7.5, then cause my friend has a crush on Jayce he changed the score to a 8.5.
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Old Jun 24, 2013, 07:35 PM
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I see. If you like giving people numerical scores, watch some figure skating - they probably have it on YT. Judges give two numerical scores for each item.

In terms of trying to find some meaning in her not having removed you as a friend and trying to attribute some significance to her having 42 friends, and not 16, and not 283, but 42... it seems a waste of your time. Total waste of time. Try doing something else with your time. Something for fun, perhaps.
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Old Jun 25, 2013, 06:55 PM
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I see. If you like giving people numerical scores, watch some figure skating - they probably have it on YT. Judges give two numerical scores for each item.

In terms of trying to find some meaning in her not having removed you as a friend and trying to attribute some significance to her having 42 friends, and not 16, and not 283, but 42... it seems a waste of your time. Total waste of time. Try doing something else with your time. Something for fun, perhaps.
Well she's told me she only keeps her closest friends on Facebook, so I find it odd that if she doesn't like me so much she hasn't removed me from Facebook. I was just adding that it'd be easier to remove me because she only has 42 friends, so it would involve very little scrolling to find me.

Ice skating is boring to watch. It was just a stupid score, let's not get so hung up on some stupid score I gave them.
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Old Jun 25, 2013, 07:06 PM
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Well she's told me she only keeps her closest friends on Facebook, so I find it odd that if she doesn't like me so much she hasn't removed me from Facebook. I was just adding that it'd be easier to remove me because she only has 42 friends, so it would involve very little scrolling to find me.
So all of that was what I meant by "do not waste your time" - the whole paragraph.

I am sorry you did not like ice skating. I think it is the most exciting sport to watch.
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