[Gazzer]

Due to my past "behavior" my current partner is considering leaving as she does not trust me and thinks I continue to lie to her.

After we got back together after a period of time apart where I met a few other woman in between, she asked me about previous partners and I said I was single.
What I didn't say was that I had a woman stay with me for 3 months until she went back to her home country and I felt it wasn't going to work.
What happened after was that I tried to conceal my past as I knew it would be difficult to explain my decisions and choices. After a few months of being in a long distance relationship we went on holiday where she asked if I was still in touch with any of my past partners. I denied I was but in truth I was but I wasn't engaging in any sexual content. I stopped the contact with them and saw myself wanting to have a long term relationship with my current partner.

My previous partner that stayed with me still had personal items in my house and I wanted to return these as I felt that was the best thing to do. So I contacted her to get the address to send the items to, this then started a conversation where she was reminiscing on our past but I didn't respond back. I sent the items to her and thought that was that, but what happened was my previous partner started sending messages to my current partner.
She wrote stuff that was not true (saying we were getting married etc) and even described our sex life !
This obviously caused a big issue as it then came out that I was still in contact with her after I said I wasn't, even though I wasn't trying to rekindle anything.

This then started weeks of my current partner of going through my emails, facebook account, pictures anything about my past so she could find more information.
The issue got bigger and bigger and if there was anything that reminder her of my past all what was found was taken up again and again.

What I want to know is how can I sort this mess before I lose the woman I love

[RoseBee]

She feels lied to and betrayed. You can't control anyone else but yourself, so there's no going back there. All you can do is apologize, be sincere, and ask what you would have to do in order to earn her trust back. Some people, you can't. I have lost many a good relationships because I either can't let something go or my trust was lost and it couldn't be earned back. She probably needs some cooling off time and needs to see that you are willing to change. Good luck!

[Benetduncan]

Maybe sit down with her and tell her that you will answer any question she asks directly and honestly. And then you can draw a line under all this and move on to the future you both supposedly want.

Basically stop lying and hiding. And maybe block out those women who destabalise your current relationship.

[elviras]

i think you have to explain to the other women that you love the women you are with at the moment. maybe she stop doing things to hurt your current relationship.if not just ignore her. after you clean all about past you open your heart to your girlfriend be honest and tell everything and how you feel about her. and she would understand unless you keep secrets