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Old Jul 01, 2013, 03:38 PM
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How does one make friends when no one is around? I've met everyone around where I live (three people) and they don't really want to be friends with me. It seems hard
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Old Jul 01, 2013, 03:46 PM
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it is hard making friends with limited resources. why not try the chat rooms or games and make some internet friends to talk to in the mean time?
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Old Jul 01, 2013, 03:49 PM
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sorry you feel alone. is there any group you could join, e.g. photography group or any after work meet ups?
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Old Jul 01, 2013, 03:52 PM
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There's one group I went to. There were two other people and they both moved away. So the group was dropped.
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Old Jul 02, 2013, 09:00 AM
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Sounds like your in an isolated area, only three people for neighbors.
What about people at work?
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Old Jul 02, 2013, 08:31 PM
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My wife works but I don't right now.
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Old Jul 02, 2013, 08:59 PM
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It was worse in my youth. I didn't have one friend while a teenager.
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Old Jul 03, 2013, 12:54 AM
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Find a job? Join a club? I know I haven't done both of those properly. I have a job but mother got it for me

(I guess you'd have to drive to work if you do get a job)
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Old Jul 03, 2013, 01:00 AM
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Yeah, I can't drive. It makes me sick with anxiety.
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Old Jul 03, 2013, 10:36 AM
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Well, one good thing, you have us!

While it's no substitute for face time with another human, it is at least something.

There must be things that interest you ie. hobbies, something you've always wanted to try. Hell, if nothing else, library, museum, cinema, book club. Is there public transportation available?

I can sympathize with having difficulty in making friends. All through childhood I was alone and unable to connect with other kids. It hasn't gotten much better as an adult although I've learned a few tricks on how to better understand others there is still a disconnect. I want to make friends but experience has taught me that I suck at it and so I vacillate between wanting to and not wanting to. I don't know if your experiences have been anywhere near the same as mine. I'm just trying to relay that I understand loneliness and how difficult it can be to overcome it.
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Old Jul 03, 2013, 01:27 PM
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We essentially live in the woods. There's very little ways to get anywhere.
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Old Jul 10, 2013, 12:44 PM
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I think I've lost the need for social interaction though. I think you lose a need when it hasn't been satisfied ever.
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Old Jul 10, 2013, 02:33 PM
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I think I've lost the need for social interaction though. I think you lose a need when it hasn't been satisfied ever.
Have to disagree on that one. Humans have evolved to be social creatures. That "need" hasn't gone anywhere. If anything it's been put on hold by circumstance or illness.
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Old Jul 10, 2013, 03:20 PM
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Well, then I best hold the phone.
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Old Jul 10, 2013, 03:44 PM
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Have to disagree on that one. Humans have evolved to be social creatures. That "need" hasn't gone anywhere. If anything it's been put on hold by circumstance or illness.
Agreed. Had PP not have the need, she would not have been posting on here.

Internet social interaction is just a version of general social interaction, and a desire to post on a forum manifests the need for social interaction that is alive and well. It has not even been put on hold - it has just been converted into online posting, but it is just as social as going for drinks with a live human.
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Old Jul 10, 2013, 05:09 PM
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I've always wondered what it's like to have friends.
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Old Jul 10, 2013, 05:48 PM
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To add:

There might be people who do not need social interaction, but then, they are invisible to others - whatever they do, be it knitting or engaging in Zen silence, they just keep to themselves.

If a person, say, knits and simply posts images of her creations online, even if she does it in pre-Web2.0 fashion i.e. on her homepage that does not even have interactive functionality (as opposed to blogging with comments enabled), she is still being social, because she cares enough to let others have an opportunity to see her work.

To the extent that you have a need to post, you are clearly social.
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