okcupid getting me depressed.

Since she is an older girl with a Master's degree, please allow her to decide what is worth her time BY HERSELF.

See what you are doing? On the one hand, you feel inferior. On the other hands, you are trying - if only in your mind - to take over her decision-making by caring about whether she'd waste her time. She is a big girl and she can figure out what to do with her time on your own.

My friend was so fed up wth it too. I convinced her to give it another try and she found someone. They are good together. Don't give up!

hmmm I suppose this is a topic for an entirely new thread...

I've never been on OKCupid specifically but I have used a dating app on Facebook and let me tell you, I personally got SO many messages from both men and women (am bisexual), it was ridiculous. I couldn't possibly respond to all of the messages I received and at first I tried responding to every but could not. With that being said, nothing on there worked out for me and this was a few years ago I did this.

I tried the same app again back in the start of this year only to quit again (started seeing an awesome guy I met in one of my classes). A former friend of mine used this app a lot who is a guy and he got some responses and such, yet would always get upset whenever things didn't work out (a lot of the same reasons why you are getting depressed about it). Keep your chin up, someone wonderful for you will come along whether or not they are on OKCupid

Your experience is the norm do not worry about it. Me and my roommate both tried the site and I have seen many girls on the site I went to college or high school with. There are 2 major problems with online dating in my experience as a man:

The free websites (okcupid and pof)
It is hard to tell if anyone on this site is real. Not having to invest money in a profile leaves room for lots if fake users and low-life's. I had only one relationship out of either site and I feel it is because I was under such a dry spell if activity so I became desperate. The lack of investment leaves people with a mentality to come and go as they please. The girls that reply are often unattractive or have kid/kids or are bi. They usually have some sort of vague artsy fartsy sounding profile as well. 3 years I have tried to build a stady conversation and get the phone number and suggest a date. It rarely happens. They often cancel at the last second

The paid website (match.com)
I have only been on this one a month and a half, but I was shocked to find the experience is the same as the free sites. The only difference is the quality of women seems to be higher. They often have good paying jobs and are attractive, but they seem to be swallowed up by their career. I met a girl from art school on here and tried to reconnect. We were acquaintances and had a lot of mutual friends in common. Turns out she moved back to my home town and she was friends with a lot of people I had played sports with and mutual best friends from high school. She was excited I remembered her and even got her number. She made an excuse to cancel our date. I let time go by and rescheduled and she burned me again. The same recurring thing keeps happening to me no matter who it is.

I am not crazy nor do I act very desperate. I have lots of friends and I know a lot of people. I don't know how I got suckered into online dating. I had a lot of jobs working with only men, by myself, or young girls. I am a little behind in my career compared to some my age but I consider myself hard working and somewhat attractive. I'm very outgoing...hell I was prom king at my high school. I feel completely stuck at this point. I hang out with many friends who have girlfriends but they never seem to have attractive friends without huge baggage.

My final words are its them, not you. Guys are looking for a good date. Girls are picking out the perfect date and they don't care if they cancel at the last second and destroy your night or weekend. You're better of without it