[confusedguy40]

every relationship i've ever had felt like one sided
just when i thought it was different
i'm not allowed to talk about how i feel if i feel hurt in any way

[Leed]

Who SAYS you're now allowed to talk about how you feel? The girl? What has she got to say about it? Does she just flat out tell you to shut up? You can't allow yourself to be walked on like that. Even if she doesn't tell you to shut up, you have a right to say anything you want! If you're expected to listen to HER the she'd better be willing to listen to YOU Too! If she's not, then get rid of her. And let her know why too! Tell her she's selfish!!

Don't just accept treatment like that from women. Let them know what they're doing, and get rid of them. Then find one that seems decent and giving. But make sure you're giving too, and not just a taker. God bless & take are. Hugs, Lee

[Benetduncan]

Maybe you should consider why you choose these people. Ultimately we choose the people we think we deserve.

Best of luck and take care!

[grai]

all my relationships are like this! it's a massive issue. I just don't feel I have the right to make even small demands on anyone at all - it all has to be on their terms

no-one comes to my place they just wait for me to visit - same with phone calls

I have this due to my relationship with my mother - she was narcissistic and spiteful

I've never found a way to stop myself repeating this pattern of "falling in" with other peoples' needs and ignoring my own

it's very deep and hard to crack - superficially I've made headway but I actually now just try to accept that it's the way I am and not blame others or resent them - I am the one writing the script