[Wham6429]

OK so long story (sort of) short, my stepmom flipped out on my sister for talking to my father's ex-girlfriend (which was someone important in my sister's life when she was growing up). My stepmom is VERY wrong in this situation but she doesn't think so even after my dad told her otherwise. My sister and her have not talked in over a year and the holidays have been really tough cuz my "parents" invite me over but never my sister. I've always told them that I had plans with my sister.

SIDE NOTE: My dad and sister see each other when the 3 of us go out once every other month or so. & My sister just went through a divorce a few months ago so her circumstances have changed.

Well my grandfather told my sister that my dad is have a 4th of July party tomorrow. My sister is going to crash the party. She asked me for support and an escort to the party. I am very stoked she is going...

BUT My stepmom is going to be so angry and she is going to assume it was me who invited my sister. I told my sister I'd take the fall but I am not ready to take the wrath of my stepmom. She is psycho! (Non of my dad's family like her anymore... she has flipped out on all of us at one point for things she is so wrong about)...

Any ideas how to handle this? I am just as anxious/nervous as my sister who is crashing this party. eep!

The only thing I can say is to hold your head up high. Your sister is crashing the party, not you and you are not a criminal to be with her when she arrives - she's your sister! Let your stepmom say what she want to say, just do whatever you can to let it wash over you - this isn't your problem, it's hers (and your sisters) and you didn't do anything wrong. Is your father supportive of you?

Good luck tomorrow... and try to remember, things tend to be a lot worse in our heads than they actually turn out to be. I hope you enjoy some of it!

[lynn P.]

I agree your stepmother had no right to go off on your sister for speaking to your dad's ex girlfriend. How does your dad feel about your sister not being allowed to his house? I think your dad needs to be assertive and tell her to stop the revenge /alienation. Would letting your dad know help or hurt the situation. Good luck tomorrow and she has a right to see your dad.

It sounds to me like step mom has some serious issues! Who is she to say who your sister can talk to???? Step mom needs to know she can't be that controlling. And if dad allows it........shame on him!!!!
I feel sorry for you having to be stuck in the middle!

[Wham6429]

Well it went. My stepmom is officially angry with me for "knowing my sister was going and not telling her". I just told her "why? What would have been different? You were still going to react the same way." Ugh. .. can't stand her. I guess we'll find out tomorrow how upset my dad is at us. .. because this was a learning experience for him to. .. he should have handled this problem already. ... it's only been 1.5 years. :-/

[unaluna]

Wow, good answer!! My current t and a previous one keep asking me why my mother, who was such a beeyotch, had such power in our house. I finally figured out, she had control over the men in the family. just my father and brother, but still. Tell your pappy it's not your job to make sure he still gets laid by you not making stepmom mad. Maybe say it nicer! But im kinda mad my needs were sacrificed to THAT, now that I understand.