Getting rid of room mate

I have had a room mate for about 6 weeks now. I had to beg for his June rent and now he is not paying his July rent. I have asked him several times and he will not answer my messages.

He is not on the lease and I have no idea how to get rid of him. A friend of mine is coming over to change my locks and that helps a little. Has anyone ever had this problem?

I know his parents because I went to church with them a couple years ago. They said they were going to pay his rent for him for the first few months but haven't helped.

I am so angry and frustrated. I want him out. Any advice? Should I go to the Magistrate and file a complaint? Ugh, I am so upset right now!

I see you live in the US. The laws vary from state to state. How about a phone call to your local legal aid office to ask what you have to do to make him move out?

Good idea! I was going to go straight to the police office, lol. This is the last time I help friends and the kids they want to pawn off on other people.

If he gets mail there he has squatters' rights and you must evict him through the courts. Maybe. Not only do the laws vary from state to state, but also from one city to another.

Actually he does get mail here. Darn. Well, off to the courts we go!

I just read up on it and the property has to be vacant to claim squatters rights. I may be able to take another route. I hope. Wish me luck.

Good luck!

One of my friends let a boyfriend move in with her and the police here told her that because he receives mail at the address he has squatters' rights. He wasn't on the lease and their relationship changed. She wanted him gone. The apartment was not vacant because she was there before he moved in and she did not leave. She barred him from coming in and he called the police.

He doesn't really have any rights, yet. The longer he stays though ... I would tell him to pack, if it were me. And offer to help.

I did this: brought in boxes and made it clear, without being mean, that it was not working out. It was not a discussion, just a statement of fact.
You are not in the wrong, he is. You do not need to give him notice, unless you want to.
It is a sort of business arrangement, try not to get too emotional, if possible.
Best of luck, sorry for the frustration ...

I have considered boxes and packing his things for him. I am changing the locks tomorrow and letting him know before. I will let him in to get his stuff and then he can leave. The sad thing is that his Dad is a T where I go for therapy. Wow, what a scene I could make in the waiting area for all to hear!

Yeah, you could ....but it sounds like you are too considerate a person to do that
Sounds like you have a good solid plan of action. Easier than involving anyone else.
Again good luck with this.

Surely this informal arrangement would be classed the same as a family or friend staying, they may still get their mail, they may still pay rent but as u r not a prof live out landlord nor signed him to 6mths/1yr could it not be classed as a `favour' to his parents? and get him out asap?

I am a considerate person, you are right. It is the only reason I helped them out in the first place. My kindness is being taken advantage of and it is making me very anxious and angry. I hope you are right that my plan of action will work. He needs to learn responsibility.

Very valid point. If I can ever get him to talk to me face to face I will point this out again. He has the habit of coming and going when I am not here. Sneaky, he is! This is the last time I will take on a room mate, that is for sure.

Thank you everyone for your replies.