I don't like clingy people in the first place, but I hate it more when that clingy person is also a fake friend who treats me as a back up friend. There is a person at my school who does this, if she is at loose ends, she gets very clingy and desperate and gets mad if I refuse to be with her. But if she is with others, I literally don't exist, she'll even look at me like she has no idea whatsoever who I am. Sick of it. Need to get these people out of my life since there are a few people like this.

[mazing]

Sorry to hear about that. It might be a good idea to hang around with other people at school if you can. Try to find some other friends who respect you as a friend and not someone to depend on when only they need it.

Originally Posted by mazing

Sorry to hear about that. It might be a good idea to hang around with other people at school if you can. Try to find some other friends who respect you as a friend and not someone to depend on when only they need it.

I'm working on that.

[RoseBee]

Originally Posted by LR15

I don't like clingy people in the first place, but I hate it more when that clingy person is also a fake friend who treats me as a back up friend. There is a person at my school who does this, if she is at loose ends, she gets very clingy and desperate and gets mad if I refuse to be with her. But if she is with others, I literally don't exist, she'll even look at me like she has no idea whatsoever who I am. Sick of it. Need to get these people out of my life since there are a few people like this.

Actually break up with her. Friend break ups suck, but sometimes necessary. Sit her down, tell her specific examples of her behavior, and ask her to leave you alone. Do not contact her or have anything to do with her beyond normal civility.

Originally Posted by RoseBee

Actually break up with her. Friend break ups suck, but sometimes necessary. Sit her down, tell her specific examples of her behavior, and ask her to leave you alone. Do not contact her or have anything to do with her beyond normal civility.

That's what I'm going to do, I actually don't even consider her a friend, I just say it since I don't know what else to call her.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by LR15

That's what I'm going to do, I actually don't even consider her a friend, I just say it since I don't know what else to call her.

Well, you called her a "fake friend" in the OP. I think it is a fine title you gave her - it describes the situation perfectly.

I hope things improve in your social life!

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

Well, you called her a "fake friend" in the OP. I think it is a fine title you gave her - it describes the situation perfectly.

I hope things improve in your social life!

Yep, it's a fine title, and it will improve as soon as I cut her from my life. There is a new development with her, she talks crap about others all the time even if she talks to them, so she will talk to one person then go to someone else and say she dislikes that person and talks bad about them, not a good thing, she has no friends.

She is a flake - drop her before she pulls you further into her needless drama as well.

High School is a tough place, but i figure that since this is the case, you just have to be on your guard. There are probably a lot of students who relate exactly to how you're feeling, it's just striking up a meeting with those people. A lot of this sort of thing happens randomly but sometimes you have to extend yourself. I would just focus on doing what you love and consider friendships a bonus - high school is transitory, if you don't make good friends there you'll have your whole working life ahead of you to try again. I'm not sure how helpful it is right now having friendships that are too involved anyway - it can cause a whole load of other stress and when you have exams, college applications etc to worry about i sometimes think it's more trouble than it's worth. But this is just me.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by LR15

Yep, it's a fine title, and it will improve as soon as I cut her from my life. There is a new development with her, she talks crap about others all the time even if she talks to them, so she will talk to one person then go to someone else and say she dislikes that person and talks bad about them, not a good thing, she has no friends.

dissociate yourself from her ASAP - people who do such things are very dangerous, and since you already have a problem with not having enough true friends, you do not need a dangerous person who will only worsen your reputation further. Dissociate.

Originally Posted by Spockette

She is a flake - drop her before she pulls you further into her needless drama as well.

High School is a tough place, but i figure that since this is the case, you just have to be on your guard. There are probably a lot of students who relate exactly to how you're feeling, it's just striking up a meeting with those people. A lot of this sort of thing happens randomly but sometimes you have to extend yourself. I would just focus on doing what you love and consider friendships a bonus - high school is transitory, if you don't make good friends there you'll have your whole working life ahead of you to try again. I'm not sure how helpful it is right now having friendships that are too involved anyway - it can cause a whole load of other stress and when you have exams, college applications etc to worry about i sometimes think it's more trouble than it's worth. But this is just me.

Yes, totally agree with you, but unfortunately this is happening in college, the place you would least expect it. I will drop her ASAP.

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

dissociate yourself from her ASAP - people who do such things are very dangerous, and since you already have a problem with not having enough true friends, you do not need a dangerous person who will only worsen your reputation further. Dissociate.

Exactly, totally agree with you. And it will be harder this year since literally everyone else she associated with either graduated or just stopped talking to her. I will have to avoid her too.

[LoveMe3x]

Originally Posted by LR15

Yes, totally agree with you, but unfortunately this is happening in college, the place you would least expect it. I will drop her ASAP.

Just like in high school friends you make friends & acquaintances in college. they may not be your friends that you'll have in life. I met a lot of people in college and not all of them are my friend now. And I barely speak to the people that was friends with in high school. So just think positive you will make a better friend s sooner or later on in life.

Originally Posted by LoveMe3x

Just like in high school friends you make friends & acquaintances in college. they may not be your friends that you'll have in life. I met a lot of people in college and not all of them are my friend now. And I barely speak to the people that was friends with in high school. So just think positive you will make a better friend s sooner or later on in life.

Yep, will do, except this one person deserves to be cut from my life immediately.