[LoveMe3x]

Preface: This is me just getting my feeling out. I have to get them out:

I've known for some time now. I give and I give and I give and still I get nothing in return. At least not what I keep fighting for. It's become quite clear in these past few days. I give my all for what? As the song goes, "In the end, it doesn't really matter." You can do anything and everything for someone & they'll NEVER recognize it. Not if they are sick. EVER! And what will drive a sane person into the realm of insanity? Their desire for their giving of themselves to be recognized! Hello! I'm here! Don't you see me? Don't you see how much I've done for you? Don't you love me yet?! You ask and I give. You ask again and I give. You ask time and time again and I will continue to give. When it is my turn to ask? Remember me? The one that gave and still gives you everything?? Everything you ever wanted or lost even if it means I'll go broke trying to please you?

BOOM!

All I hear is that door slamming shut in my mind because I know all to well what has just happened. Deep down the fear has become reality. You don't want me anymore. What 5 words will do to break my heart time and time again. Makes my heart sick. This heart beats. These lungs, they take in air, but that life. That life inside that once was, is just GONE. All that's left is what's in it's place now: A dull ache in my chest. And with it, pain. Unbearable pain that comes in and out every time you don't recognize me.

I don't believe in falling "out" of love. That just means the love wasn't there in the 1st place.

[manwithnofriends]

Yep. They took and never gave in return. They used you like a tool. When they're finished with it, they just dump you in an emotional "bin". There are such people on this Earth. Even your boss and/or your country's president could fall into this category.

Or...

Your super-willingness to "give" makes people, even the more "ordinary ones", treat you the way you describe it. You only realise you have this feeling once you can no longer give.

[mojo321]

(reposted from General)

I tend to think that relationships are set up for a balance. If you are always giving giving giving, you will likely end up in a relationship with someone that is all too willing to take take take.

Maybe they didn't even start out that way. But in a way you train them up to be good takers.

Your self has great value. Don't forget that. It isn't fair to yourself to let people or relationships take advantage of you.

You could try making a schedule of your week on an hourly basis. And see how much of that time is devoted to your own PERSONAL goals and wants, other than to be loved. Surely you have a dream. What are your dreams? (besides being in a loving relationship)

You have to have a dream for yourself. Something to work for. Something to never give up on. What would it be? Find your life before you try to share it with someone else!