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Oct 22, 2013, 12:04 AM
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for past 3days i am facing some difficulties to trust /believe my lover. i don't have single present love on him. i wont believe anything when he said usual thing. its all cause of one girl enters in our relationship. still he saying that they had been good friends.. i wont believe it so.. may be he is trying to hide that he is paramour of her.
in the year 2010 Feb, when i studied final year of my B.E graduation they met each other in office. he said that time about her that they are good friends and all. i didn't take that matter as serious one in my mind.. moreover i didn't point his false action towards me on that time.. one day my brother(one of his friend) called me and asked me" u and he got separated?" i was shocked when he asked like that.. i said no brother nu.then he cutted phone by not saying anything..that time they went to theater by bike(sitting and hugging each other).. i asked "they said that they are friends.. i cried over whole night.. after that his activities getting change everyday.. i wont hurt me before like after she enters in his life,, Before- he wont sleep if i didn't call him.. he will wait until he will get my call. if i cry he will cry and he will make fun to smile me. everyday he used to call me to talk and share his feelings. he will pickup me when i return from my college even if i didn't call him to pickup.. After- he wont call me even i wont call him for 1week or 2weeks. if cry he cutted phone(still its happen) he is not sharing any feelings. he is not having any idea to see me.. but i will be sure that they not talking from last 1.5 years.. she got married.. but still he is doing same and he is not having any interest on me.. sometimes he will come only to enjoy with me in bed. after enjoyed he used to act normal. what i will do now? i am loving him more .. i cant live without him. i will accept him even he did mistake .. but i cant be with him by not pointing his mistake everyday.. sometime we wont spoke each other without any reason.. for last 2days i didn't contact him.. he drunk more and said "just leave me alone and i don't like you completely. you are not trusting me and i am as good as my dad. why you are not believing me.. i am loving you even you not having any trust on me. please forgot past i will be perfect as you expecting.. please try to get out from past".. but i cant.. please advise me what i do now? what he expecting? let me know ur doubts.. i will answer your question.. please help me.. |
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#2
Oct 22, 2013, 09:02 AM
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Sorry it was a little hard to understand. So you don't trust him and now he is distancing himself? And you are resenting him now, and can't let go from the past. Trust is a big part in a relationship, it's hard. I don't know if it's an underlying issue you may need to fix first. You can't control a person. My husband took over 4 years to stop being paranoid about me with other people. Be calm and relax, then you can enjoy the relationship.
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Oct 22, 2013, 10:23 PM
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Oct 24, 2013, 07:09 AM
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please give some more suggestion.
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Never try to dominate the one who says sorry to you for their mistake Because, they understand, you are more important than their Ego... 
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Oct 25, 2013, 07:11 PM
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Is it necessary to bring this up to him, every time, that you do talk to him? If he wants your trust, not bringing up the past, is a good way, to begin.
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