[seeker1950]

I have this elderly neighbor who is so mean. She poisoned one of my two cats, then the other one was impaled on her sharp spike fence. When I spoke to her about it, and told her how many hundreds of dollars it took me to have the vet heal him, she said, "Good, that's what the fence is there for!" This woman has cost me literally thousands of dollars since I moved into my little house, complaining to me about water running downhill into her yard. We're on a slightly sloping hillside and water does run downhill. I have the same problem from the people above me, but I've never threatened or complained to them. I've spent thousands of dollars having drain line dug to accommodate her...to no satisfaction on her part.
Today, as I was working in my bedroom, I noticed she was outside in the back yard, digging with a shovel, throwing whatever she was digging into my yard. I raised the window, and called to her to stop throwing stuff into my yard. She didn't acknowledge me, so I called this request to her repeatedly till she finally answered, saying, "You go straight to HE11!" She repeated this to me several times, and so I told her, "I'm calling the police!" Which I did! The nice young policeman spent almost an hour over there with her. I have no idea what transpired in that visit. Just this past week, there were three police cars at her house during another altercation with another neighbor. The woman is in her 80's and she's vile and out of control. Neighbors tell me she has always been this way. I just want peace!

You might look into reporting her to a state or county agency that looks into the care of senior citizens. She sounds like she has some kind of dementia. If she's having difficulties like this with you and other neighbors, she may be having more problems caring for herself than you can see. Hopefully, the agency you contact will send someone out to check on her. She may be in need of assistance and I would report it that way.

[lizardlady]

Seeker, I wondered about some kind of dementia too. You could try calling your local social services to see if they can help. On the other hand you said the neighbors say she's always been this way. Some folks are just mean spirited.

I'm so sorry about your cats. We had a neighbor poison one of our cats when I was a kid. Could you report her to your local ASAP or animal control?

[lynn P.]

(((Seeker1950))) - wow sorry you have to deal with this complaining and revenge taking neighbor. I agree with the other posters and wonder if you can call the humane society about poisoning your cats. Did the policeman take a statement from you and did you tell him everything that's happened? Its difficult when there are problems with a neighbor.

I have a neighbor family down the street, who's daughter and my daughter had a problem in school 4 yrs ago. Its still not forgotten and its stressful. Does she have family visit her? I hope this gets better for you. If you see her doing anything on your property, film her next time.

[hamster-bamster]

Oh, how horrible - a poisoned cat and an impaled cat!

Now - call the PD and obtain the numeric identifier of your case and the last name of that nice young officer who came over.

Write down everything that has ever happened, send to the police department (in my city, Animal Control is part of the PD, so no need to send to different places, but check with your PD). Reference the case identifier, list the officer's last name, and send it to the PD, asking to add to the case. Then if there are more incidents, you will have prepared a case.

ETA: ask the neighbors if they are willing to add their reports.

I assume the PD themselves may know how to route it to social services for senior citizens. I think Lizardlady is right - since this is not new, she is just mean and vile. Of course, she can be both mean/vile in general and demented "to boot" .

[Maven]

What hamster said. Record every time she does something, and report her every time! She has no right to put your cats or you in danger!

[seeker1950]

Thank you all for your responses.
I regretted posting this negative story on here.
When I called the police, the dispatcher asked me if she had dementia, to which I answered, No, she's just mean (which is true). I talked to two sets of neighbors about this incident, and they both stated emphatically that she has been this way for over 40 years (the entire time they've lived next to her). I do know that people with dementia can become mean (even meaner), but this is not the case here. Just an evil, toxic human being I have the misfortune of having as a neighbor.
Today, I will focus on more positive things.
Thanks again, PC friends!

[winter4me]

She sounds mentally ill----(& unfortunately reminds me of the only grandmother I knew...luckily for others, my grandfather had provided for her before his death, and she had enough structure and space around her to prevent her toxic illness from affecting people outside the family...and lucky for me, my mother did not allow her in our house after her one, very nasty, visit...though we did see her each summer when my father was on vacation - his mom- and that was enough to cause nightmares) .
I would report each disturbance, and if the neighbors do likewise, she may end up in some sort of care setting--- Talking to her clearly will not help---I would avoid arguing with her, it will probably fuel her anger/spite/paranoia, or trying to make adjustments to please her, just quietly take information down and call the PD or SS whichever seems appropriate in the situation, she will not respond to logic, or pleas, or anything but what is inside her head----she may let down her guard when a nice young policeman sits with her, but what she tells him will still be just what is in her (likely paranoid) mind...she might even make him promises she cannot keep, or have delusions of being the victim...
So sorry for you and the neighbors.

[seeker1950]

Originally Posted by winter4me

She sounds mentally ill----(& unfortunately reminds me of the only grandmother I knew...luckily for others, my grandfather had provided for her before his death, and she had enough structure and space around her to prevent her toxic illness from affecting people outside the family...and lucky for me, my mother did not allow her in our house after her one, very nasty, visit...though we did see her each summer when my father was on vacation - his mom- and that was enough to cause nightmares) .
I would report each disturbance, and if the neighbors do likewise, she may end up in some sort of care setting--- Talking to her clearly will not help---I would avoid arguing with her, it will probably fuel her anger/spite/paranoia, or trying to make adjustments to please her, just quietly take information down and call the PD or SS whichever seems appropriate in the situation, she will not respond to logic, or pleas, or anything but what is inside her head----she may let down her guard when a nice young policeman sits with her, but what she tells him will still be just what is in her (likely paranoid) mind...she might even make him promises she cannot keep, or have delusions of being the victim...
So sorry for you and the neighbors.

Such a wise and insightful response, Winter4me. It is a 100% accurate description of this woman. Worthy of printing!