[Bill3353]

Hello
I'm new to this forum and have questions. My wife's grandmother past away last year. The family was aware this was going to happen. My wife's family includes her mother, uncle and aunt. Well her grandma, before passing, had sold my wife and I her shop and apartment complex. My wife's aunt had tried to manage the shop and apartments with no luck. Her aunt ran it to the ground, which if wed not purchased it would have be lost after her grandma's passing. Along with running it to the ground she has not held a job for over two years, has no money, living in one of the apartments rent free, had has no ambition to change this. She applied for hud and recieved a letter for help but chose to ignore it. Three years previous wed tried to get her prepared for this. We get empty promisses constantly. She is over weight approx weight is 350lbs. She has bad hygiene living with 4 cats 1 dog. Her aunt was taken care of financiallyby her mother. No one in the family has anymore means to help this depedancy. We're trying to find her a new place to live and start a new chapter. However no income, no ambition, over weight and bad hygiene we dont know what to do next. What weve done thus far is taken her to workforce, reapplied for hud and requested disability for her. My questions are what is our obligation to her? Are there programs out there for her? What else can we do to help her, help her selve.
Thank you

[Multiple survivor]

Bill3353,
Wow! What a mess to have to deal w. I'm sorry for your ordeal. There r state run facilities that r intended for the disabled and elderly. Have u looked into any thing like that? Social services might have some ideas? About the pets...1 or 2 max! Your obligation is to remain a productive adult. You need intervention and assistance or she might possibly cause more harm to your own functionality.

[jadzea]

I would guess that legally you have no responsibility for your wife's aunt. Your moral obligation may be different. How old is she? I would call the area agency on aging and ask for help. They can arrange to have a guardian named for her who will be responsible for her well being. If she is not old enough for their services they should be able to lead you to someplace that can help.

Good luck and God bless you for being concerned.

[James franko]

It's hard to know what's right or wrong in this situation. But for some reason you are,and for another reason you have still been trying to help. Most people would of called the city and have them pick her up and let the city deal with her. When I say city I mean eviction and all that follows after she's thrown out. The city will put her in Holmes shelter. The end of that. But not you your heart is good so you want to know if your doing the right thing in helping a human. If I would ask an elder they would say what would Jesus do. My opinion is do what your conscious heart felt voice is telling you to do.do what's going to feel right to you and your family. The choice is one Yule have to live with and at least you can feel right about it. In the end we won't care what $ cars house or what people think we will only care about our family and friends and having them close to us at all times.

[~Christina]

Sorry you are going through all this.

She may very well have some type of MI that could be her problem or she just likes how her life is. If she is able to qualify for disability then there would be medical records coming from some where to support her need for it. Does she see a Doctor often? Do you know of any medical problems she is dealing with? Being obese isn't going to get her disability. Due to all the Hippa laws it will be hard to find out if there is anything going on , besides what she may or may not tell you.

Good luck I hope you can find a solution.