[desertjasmine]

Hi there, I'm new here & this is actually a repost from another area (someone suggested I post it in this forum...thanks!)

I am in a music cover band with my husband; that is how we met. I have gotten to the point that I no longer want to do this (I would like to pursue other artistic interests). I do like to perform but am no longer interested in all of the other garbage and hassle that goes with it. How do I go about extracting myself without letting my husband down? I have tried quitting in the past but have allowed myself to get roped back in. Hoping you can give me some advice; I am concerned how this will affect our relationship (and realize it most likely already is...)

[healingme4me]

I would hope he'd be supportive and realize that you need some time off, from being in the band

[~Christina]

I would just be honest and tell him that you want to make a change and then stick by your decision.

[jadzea]

Depending on what it is you want to do instead of being in the band you can find a group that does this activity, or a class, or a workshop or something. Tell your husband you will be going to this meeting and will not be available on whatever night(s) for the band. That way you can do whatever you would rather be doing while still being in the band. You can slowly withdraw and it won't seem like you are letting him down.

Be sure to remain supportive and listen when he talks about the band. Also, go and hear them play when you can. That way he will know you are still involved, just not to the degree you once were.