[Simplysabian]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months. I began hearing rumors that he cheated on me with his extreme beautiful ex girlfriend, so I began questioning him about it. Every time I did, he'd promise me that it wasnt true. (This happened 6-14 times) Shortly after, his ex girlfriend messaged me
And came clean about everything; the rumors were true. After showing him everything she said, he came clean. I'd like us to move forward together, but now I don't think he's sexually attracted to me and I don't think I'll ever be able to trust him again.

[Scotty204]

Why would you stay with someone who cheated on you? In order to have a successful relationship the trust needs to be there or it won't work out in the long term

[gayleggg]

I agree with Scotty. He had cheated and lied about it. He broke the trust bond between you. Why would you want to be with someone like that?
Gayle

[WorkInProgress16]

If you can't trust him the relationship will be a disaster. There was a time where i didn't trust my boyfriend (not because of rumors but because I was insecure) and we almost broke up because of it. There needs to be trust in a relationship so do both of you a favor and dump his cheating ***.

[Webgoji]

As a man, I find cheating on someone to be the most dishonorable thing one can do. And a man is nothing but a waste of air if he has no honor. If a man isn't happy being with a woman, he needs to talk to her about it and then they both need to move on. Don't lie and break her trust. As they say "man-up" and do the right thing.

Don't worry about whether he finds you attractive or not. Kick him to the curb, there are plenty of real men out there that will treat you the way you deserve.

[Odee]

Dump him.

[UniversalTruth]

You should move on - you deserve better.

[Dionysius]

I hate cheating by anyone, man or woman. To my mind the cheater has contempt for the person they are cheating on. If they were committed to the relationship and actually loved their partner then they wouldn`t even contemplate having sex with another person, no, for me the relationship would be over, (this is just how I see things), cheating makes me so angry. Good luck, Dionysius. Btw I am male.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Simplysabian

My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months. I began hearing rumors that he cheated on me with his extreme beautiful ex girlfriend, so I began questioning him about it. Every time I did, he'd promise me that it wasnt true. (This happened 6-14 times) Shortly after, his ex girlfriend messaged me
And came clean about everything; the rumors were true. After showing him everything she said, he came clean. I'd like us to move forward together, but now I don't think he's sexually attracted to me and I don't think I'll ever be able to trust him again.

You have two questions.

(1) Is he sexually attracted to you?

Probably, he is, since he has been dating you for eight months. Why would one date someone for that long without experiencing any attraction to that girl? It would have been bizarre. I mean, we cannot tell for sure, but the fact that he self-selected into the relationship, rather than was court-ordered to enter into the relationship with you, seems to imply that he is sexually attracted to you.
Since, in most cases though not all, a person can be sexually attracted to several people rather than one, simultaneously, and, sometimes in different ways, the fact that he had sex with his ex girlfriend does not rule out the possibility that he is still very attracted to you. That the girlfriend is very beautiful does not change anything.

So most likely, the answer is yes.

(2) would you be able to trust him again?

well, he lied for close to 14 times in an 8-month period. OK, so on average he would lie once every 2.5 weeks or so (I am estimating and not doing precise math). Do you think you could trust him ever again?..

...

So most likely, the answer to this one is no.

[Heather11]

Move on. Don't waste your time trying to figure anything out with this one. You deserve better. It's that simple.

[deelooted]

As many are saying- dump and move on.

I concur with the others - I would move on. Although 8 months may seem like a long time ... if he has broken the trust in your relationship and not been monogamous...I think you are better off moving on. Take care.