[bluegirl007]

because i told her that her husband made a pass at me...now she won't talk to me anymore...did i do the right thing by telling her? any advice would be appreciated...should i have just kept my mouth shut...sometimes i feel like i shouldn't have said a word.

[Carmelbythesea]

Hey are you positive its cause you told her or did you think of that on your own?

[ImperfectMe]

Originally Posted by bluegirl007

because i told her that her husband made a pass at me...now she won't talk to me anymore...did i do the right thing by telling her? any advice would be appreciated...should i have just kept my mouth shut...sometimes i feel like i shouldn't have said a word.

I would have said something to my sister too, if I was 100% certain that he made a pass at me and wasn't just joking around. Would you have wanted your sister to tell you if the tables were turned?

It must have been very hard for you to decide to tell her this, just as it was probably very hard for her to hear it.

I'm not sure what your relationship was like with your sister before this happened, but it may not be unsalvagable. If you want to try to reach out to her, try something small like sending her a little card or something letting her know that you were just thinking about her.

[hamster-bamster]

Send her this book:

There Once Lived a Girl Who Seduced Her Sister's Husband, and He Hanged Himself: Love Stories: Ludmilla Petrushevskaya, Anna Summers: 9780143121527: Amazon.com: Books

Because you did the exact opposite - not only did you not seduce her husband to the point of his hanging himself, but you did not go along when he wanted to seduce you. That is how good of a person you are!
Send her the book - it would be easier than explaining in your own words.

Caveat: I have not yet read the book, but I have read other books by the author and went to a presentation by her about 25 years ago, and she is awesome.

So I do not hesitate to recommend this without the benefit of having read THIS book, but just on the strength of the author's general talent.

[cnfused.girl]

You did the right thing. She may not have wanted to hear it but at least you did the right thing. Not many people can say that. And your sister is her own person so she decides if she still wants a person in her life who intentionally tried to hurt her. She may not have liked it but she chose to stop talking to you and in the end you did nothing wrong. She'll see that eventually (if she doesn't already) because if he tried his wifes sister then nothing and no one is off limits. You've warned her now what happens after that depends on how she takes the news and what she does with that piece of information.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by ImperfectMe

try something small like sending her a little card or something letting her know that you were just thinking about her.

good idea

I have found Papyrus Cards to be pretty helpful in mending or improving relationships. They do not always work, but they do work most of the time. the art is good, non-corny, and they have a lot of blank cards without messages. Here are some examples:
Feather Butterfly - Blank Inside - Greeting Cards

Couture Die-Cut Purse with Charm - Blank Inside - Greeting Cards

Western Style Flowers - Blank Inside - Greeting Cards

I buy them at Target where they are much cheaper than online (these online prices are a bit appalling, tbh).

Spend some time selecting a card that would mean something to her. Draw your own if have enough talent.

Write something along the lines of what ImperfectMe suggested (which is pretty perfect actually):

"Sis, I realize must have been very hard for you hear what I said. I hope you will realize, in return, that was also very hard for me to decide to tell you. It was a difficult situation, and I hesitated to tell you, but after a careful consideration, I decided that it was my duty to tell you. I hope that you can see it. THEN MENTION SOME GOOD THINGS YOU SHARED AS CHILDREN, WAY BEFORE YOU STARTED DATING MEN. I really hope that you and I will... EXPRESS YOUR HOPES."