[NJgirl94]

I have always been one to worry, my boyfriend and I were seeing eachother for 6 months before he asked me to be his girlfriend, that was about 2 months ago. he told me he loved me a week ago and since then things have been off. I have been questioning our relationship. but even before this, he has always put me down and I cant seem to do anything right. He says dont worry and im over reacting but i dont know what to do. He doesnt have much patience with me either. he is 23 and i am 20 so i feel awkward being around his friends also. he says he loves me but for some reason i just dont feel it. I dont feel like im being treated right but maybe im over reacting. I also cant go out with my girlfriends because they are in college and he is the only one i have around right now, until may. So I tend always want to hang out with him because I have no one else right now. Please I need help. I dont know what to do or say to him because now he is just getting annoyed when i ask questions about our relationship.

[kirby777]

NJ.

If you do not think your are being treated right, you are not. You deserve to be treated w/dignity & respect. What is he doing? He is in the wrong.

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[High Treason]

Originally Posted by kirby777

If you do not think your are being treated right, you are not. You deserve to be treated w/dignity & respect. What is he doing? He is in the wrong.

I think it's a huge leap to conclude that "He is in the wrong" with so little information to go on. It is very likely, however, that he is not the one for you and it is not the type of relationship you would like to be in. That's a good enough reason to end it.

[tinyrabbit]

Originally Posted by NJgirl94

he has always put me down
I cant seem to do anything right
He doesnt have much patience with me
he is just getting annoyed when i ask questions about our relationship

he says he loves me but for some reason i just dont feel it

That's not 'some reason', that's a lot of reasons. You need to get rid of this guy. You deserve far better treatment.

Anyone can say they love you. It's whether they act like it.

[SilverNeurotic]

If something doesn't feel right, chances are that it's not right.

[avlady]

Trust your intuition and get away from this guy, you're probably right it isn't nice

Originally Posted by NJgirl94

I have always been one to worry, my boyfriend and I were seeing eachother for 6 months before he asked me to be his girlfriend, that was about 2 months ago. he told me he loved me a week ago and since then things have been off. I have been questioning our relationship. but even before this, he has always put me down and I cant seem to do anything right. He says dont worry and im over reacting but i dont know what to do. He doesnt have much patience with me either. he is 23 and i am 20 so i feel awkward being around his friends also. he says he loves me but for some reason i just dont feel it. I dont feel like im being treated right but maybe im over reacting. I also cant go out with my girlfriends because they are in college and he is the only one i have around right now, until may. So I tend always want to hang out with him because I have no one else right now. Please I need help. I dont know what to do or say to him because now he is just getting annoyed when i ask questions about our relationship.

First off, regardless of whether he is "in the wrong or not", you don't feel right in this relationship, so you should probably move on. That's just the beginning though.

If he literally puts you down and then minimizes it, he obviously doesn't see how condescending and dominating he's being and most likely won't change it. I say this by the fact that you've voiced this to him and he says you're "over reacting". If he cared like he should he would try to listen to your concerns.

The age gap is tiny, I wouldn't give that two seconds of thought. I mean you shouldn't feel awkward around people that slightly older than you. On this I'd say it's on you. I doubt it's their age that makes you feel awkward.

I'm gonna guess that "he doesn't have much patience with me" means if you dont' do things like he expects, he's lost it with you before on this.. whether it's to the level of abuse or not, I can't tell, there isn't much to go on but he definitely seems to look down on you like a lesser person in some fashion. That's not a good start for a relationship.

Having him, at your age, as the only one to hang out with and be around is probably not a good thing anyway, you need to get out and have friends other than just your SO.. You're not married, you're just dating and relying on him for all your support is just not going to work out well. On top of that him being as condescending as you seem to imply is especially not a good person to put your eggs into one basket with.

I think it's probably a good thing to move on, but even if that's not what you choose, at the very least get out, get more friends and hang out without him some! Spread your wings and build a network of friends. your other friends will likely be gone to college for awhile so it's probably a good thing to do anyway.