[Karin111]

Hi everyone, I'm currently living in California and I'm 17 years old. My boyfriend and I dated for 7 months and had a great relationship. After six months we broke up because he cheated on me and began to date the girl after we broke up. I was absolutely devastated because I had never felt like this about someone before and it seemed like we were perfect together. After three months of being apart his girlfriend that he cheated on me with role up with him. Now, three months after we had broken up he is telling me that he wants me back in his life. He says it was never the same with another girl and he knows that he made a huge mistake and doesn't expect me to ever consider talking to him again. But my feelings for him havn't changed I love him more than anything and I know that he knows he messed up and wants me back. So now that were talking again my parents let me know that they don't want us together and they don't want him around me. I tried to let them know how we felt about each other but they think I'm a dumb 17 year old that is confused. I know in my heart that ill never be happy unless he's in my life and I'm pretty lost right now. How can I make my parents see that we're 17 and going to make mistakes?

[Edda]

He let you down once, he will do it again.

If you let him come back all he will learn is that he can walk over you whenever he wants, you will always be there as a second option.

Just think... if you were so great together, why did he cheat on you in the first place?
Such a thing is NOT a "teenage mistake". It is a conscious choice he made, knowing full well that it would cause unimaginable pain to you.

In my opinion the guy is a flawed character. I would never trust him.

[High Treason]

I think the exact opposite of what the last post says.

People do make mistakes. They make a lot more mistakes when they're young, but intelligent people learn and grow their whole lives and that means mistakes are made. People's mistakes are not what define them. What defines a person is what they learn from their mistakes.

I will say, however, that it is unlikely that you will "never be happy unless he's in [your] life." A lot of people feel like that about their relationships at 17 and most of the time it turns out not to be true.

In any case, if you want to give him another chance, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't. If he cheats on you again, you'll know where you stand. More than likely, you won't still be together in a couple years anyway.

[Odee]

I'd recommend keeping him away. You are being used and deceived, and there are far better guys out there that will make you happy. He has harmed and hurt you. Leave him be and move on.

[avlady]

I also think you should stay away from this guy, i don't understand why someone who is cheated on would want to get together again with this person. can you remain friends but even that is not really right at this point.

[healingme4me]

Well, you are 17 and 17 year olds do make mistakes. Perhaps your parents are putting their foot down, because once people start sleeping with more and more people the risk for STD's rises. And you are 17. The 'boy' I loved at 17, is certainly not the person I love in my late 30's.

[casurfer]

Don't go back with him.... you should date other guys, you're only 17. If you are meant to be with him, it can happen later down the line, not now!

[Yoda]

Originally Posted by Edda

Just think... if you were so great together, why did he cheat on you in the first place?