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Sep 20, 2013, 05:16 AM
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I messaged my BPD ex a few days ago, and she text me in the middle of the night to say her boyfriend made threats to hit her. What is she trying to make me feel? I did not text back because I did not know what to say in my reply. How can you respond to a text like that. I don't know what she expects me to do about it. She hates me anyway so why now the contact?
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Sep 20, 2013, 05:29 AM
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Sep 20, 2013, 05:36 AM
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IMO you need to stay away from her. There is nothing you can do. This is only going to cause you pain in the long run!
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Sep 20, 2013, 06:07 AM
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Huh Indie?
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Sep 20, 2013, 07:04 AM
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Sep 20, 2013, 07:39 AM
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You sound really sweet Dylan, for your own sanity, try and move away from her
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Sep 20, 2013, 07:41 AM
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Sep 20, 2013, 08:44 AM
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How about not trying to figure out what she expects but replying according to what you feel? If you care about her then do support her. Do not go silent on her. If you don't care, make THAT clear. A person with BPD is NOT stupid. We only appreciate genuine care and support. |
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Sep 20, 2013, 08:55 AM
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If you don't care be honest with her, I appreciate it when people are honest with me, even if the truth hurts. I hate it when people beat around the bush with this kind of thing, especially my "support" system aka 'friends' and family. She probably does still have some feelings for you, so its up to you if you want to play white knight for her or not.
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Sep 20, 2013, 09:35 AM
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Sep 20, 2013, 09:38 AM
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I'm of the opinion that she still has feelings for you but that does not mean that it's a good thing.
I agree that you should make your intentions clear in either case, let her know you shouldn't be bothered with her predicaments or offer your support. Keep in mind the situation if you offer your support is bound to be more complex than you might think. Please weigh this with your decision. Not a judgment on you or her but that she is with another person now and you're an ex, it just can't be a simple situation at all. |
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Sep 20, 2013, 09:53 AM
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Sep 20, 2013, 09:55 AM
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Sep 20, 2013, 09:59 AM
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And DylanP, I don't know how your relationship was with your ex, perhaps you should, as you say, reply accordingly based on your past with her, as Edda has said? Yeah I'm sorry if I've offended you with my previous post. (I was probably wrong) I just realised that girls have very strong emotions, and combining that with BPD, most probably she did not text you out of spite.
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Sep 20, 2013, 10:17 AM
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Sep 20, 2013, 11:14 AM
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I don't mind the haha. No, like fact is if I did not message her the other day, she would not have messaged me last night. She forgot I existed until I reminded her the other day, and she just needed someone to text and it just happened to be me. I would imagine their relationship can be fine and toxic in cycles.
I'm sure she can sort it out, I can't interfere in people and the choices they make. |
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