[PeachCream22]

Sorry but this is related to previous posts..read it only if you feel like it..thank you..

1) http://forums.psychcentral.com/copin...nd-repair.html

2) http://forums.psychcentral.com/relat...-now-what.html

It's been a torturous journey. will it really be worth it in the end?

After breaking up with my ex...we still see each other at school. It's been a year. A year filled with ups and downs...and I still have feelings for him. I feel like...both of us have matured about it all. There was no particular bad reason for breaking up, I felt that we weren't mature enough to handle the relationship.

I've been talking to him online, casually, I don't know how he feels about me now. Should I talk to him about how I feel? Or are my feelings due to not being able to move on since I keep seeing him? Since he likes another girl who likes him back, but I'm also trying to make things clear between us, because he's sending mixed signals.

Or should I leave it be, and let him have a possible relationship with the girl?

He'll be going away to uni soon overseas, and I won't see him at school anymore because he's taking study leave for the coming exams. I'll probably never get to see him in person again, unless it's for the exams. It's a long shot, but I'm prepared to believe it will work IF he decides to be with me IF i talk to him about it.

[manwithnofriends]

...forget about it. Your ex is leaving, and with someone else. Plenty more fish in the sea But don't come off as desperate for a relationship. You'll get abused pretty quickly if you do so.

[Gwynyd]

This might be your last chance to speak to him, so level with him, tell him how you FEEL. It might go well or very badly, but at least you will know you gave it one last shot.
Good luck

[healingme4me]

Sounds like he's 'back-pocketing' you, just in case this new girl doesn't work out. Read through your linked posts. Sounds emotional, and tumultuous indeed!

I had a man, interested in back-pocketing me, back last spring 2012. Ugh! I'm not the type of woman, to play second fiddle to anyone! I give what I need back!

No one, is worth emotional turmoil. You deserve more than that, and when you get it, you'll appreciate having someone that complements your persona. Better than someone that leaves you feeling such angst and heartache.

[PeachCream22]

Thank you very much for the advice everyone. I appreciate it very very much.

I've decided. Now's not the time for a relationship anyway, since we're having exams. I won't talk to him anymore regarding this matter. and healing4me, you're right...maybe it's time I've moved on and stopped beating myself up over it and find someone who doesn't "back-pocket" me. I know I haven't done the best thing, but it's been a year plus. Enough's enough, I've had enough of pain to last me a lifetime.

thank you again.