[Broncos38]

Well my girlfriend tries to be honest to her mom then her mom doesn't want to hear it. And it's hard for my girlfriend to approach her mom about anything. My girlfriend wants to move out cause she can't take the stress any longer. Me n my girlfriend want to get our marriage license but I don't know how to tell her mom without her getting more angry.

[Peoney Ambrette]

I don't know the whole story,there could be so much going on there that you're not saying that may deserves different answers.But let me say,I am a mom of 19 year old and a 17 year old and have a 35 year old and 40 year old step-child.Speaking from the experience I have with my own two biological kids,as a mom when your kids are at that age when legally they can do as they choose,it's hard for parents to let go and allow kids to take control,knowing they may be about to make serious mistakes,or premature decisions.and trust me a moms hind sight is way more than 20-20.I have made some doosey of mistakes that I am grateful every day my own kids have managed to avoid. And too when mom finally makes herself accept the fact that Sally is all grown up,sometimes she just has to bite her tongue,as much as she hate to feel the "defeat(so to say)"of letting go.And too when your kid is still at home under your financial rule,its hard for a parent to say,"Sure,I'll foot the bill while you screw it all up!"But hey,me...like so many millions of parents,and like you one day too....all have to do it.Be understanding with mom.Realize she's losing a part if herself,to someone else,she's also losing control,and knows that when her kid messes ip at that point,theres not much she can do anymore but sit back and cry about it,and honestly that's not an easy thing to deal with,like seeing your kid about to run head on into a brick wall and all you can do is watch even though your standing right there.Try seeing things from moms side.

[atomicc]

Might I ask how old you are? You sound rather extremely young. I wouldn't rush into a marriage just because she is unhappy with her mother. Maybe your girlfriend can seek therapy for herself, or even for herself and her mother. I'm not sure running away to get married against her mother's wishes will ever fix that relationship.

[Broncos38]

33 but I'm going to ask her mom for her hand marriage first but the only wa
y we can be together is to get a marriage license first to order for us to have an apartment through the Catholic church otherwise her mom disapproves it without getting married legally.

[atomicc]

If you're 33 then I say do what makes you two happy. That's all you can really do in life.