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View Poll Results: Are all men possessive and angry over their girl's past? Will I get married?
All men are like that. Marriage is not in the cards for me. 0 0%
All men are like that. Marriage is not in the cards for me.
0 0%
All men are like that. Get married and listen to all they say and prove yourself all your life. 1 11.11%
All men are like that. Get married and listen to all they say and prove yourself all your life.
1 11.11%
There are some men who can accept me for being me and can live a good life. 5 55.56%
There are some men who can accept me for being me and can live a good life.
5 55.56%
Only a few men dwell in the past. 3 33.33%
Only a few men dwell in the past.
3 33.33%
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Old Oct 11, 2013, 08:53 AM
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I had already posted a thread at
forums.psychcentral.com/relationships-communication/301275-where-relationship-going.html (unable to post URL's)
regarding my current very rocky relationship.

I seem to only attract the men who want to flirt/just have fun or the men who are over-possessive and can't bear my past. I've flirted in my past with a few and also was in a long-term committed relationship which ended because he got another girl (he told me it was because he can't "handle my past"). I reacted badly and ended up flirting with others but I finally got a grip on life and my feelings and started to do well in general when I met my guy.
I hadn't initially harbored feelings towards him but when he slowly showed his love, I fell too. But he couldn't trust me and he started digging about my past and started asking questions. Initially I couldn't tell him but finally after many tantrums, I spilled it all-the flirting, losing my virginity, every tiny detail. But problem - he can't trust me now and acts more violently than my ex. He is very loving and caring but these trust problems are terrible to be with.

All men I come across seem to be like this. I haven't cheated and I never will. But he assumes that all I need is physical pleasure. But what I want is a small peaceful family where I can think positively about the present and future, and just forget all the past pain. Are all men like this? Or is it just men from my place (India)? Can't they understand that I've been cheated on by others and I fell for wrong people? It is okay for guys to do anything but not girls.

I can't stop crying daily - fearing I'll be either alone or in an abusive relationship with guilt and unhappiness. I want to find someone who'll let me be me and not suffocate me by doubting me. Is such a guy non-existent? Does my past make me unfit for love and marriage and family?
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Old Oct 11, 2013, 11:41 AM
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All men are not like this! But you haven't learned to find the good ones - you really should think about therapy if you haven't.
Thanks for this!
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