[bumpyroad]

Hi, Id like to go back a year and a half ago...but i will keep it as short as possible. My wife and I went dancing one night 25 years together,there was lots of trust. So i notice my wife reached behind her and grabbed some guy,15 -20 years younger. I didnt say anything right then but when we left the club,I said i saw her grab the guy,she said no. The next morning I asked her again and again the answer was ...no. every once in a while I would bring it up,,,,because I know what i saw! The answer was always no...and she even promised me. About 7 months after finally she admitted doing it. Now for a time after that i noticed that she was always texting someone...or she said she was checking her email. I asked her if I could see her phone and she told me it was her work phone and that I was not to see it. She constantly checkes her phone and locks it even if she goes to the washroom...its always locked. My question is...would you wanna see the phone aswell? As time goes by we go out lots to parties and she seemed fine....all this summer.on several occasion she would reach out to hold my hand as we were having fun! So three weeks ago i wake up sunday,by lunch she told me she got her own apt and that she had it for 2 weeks previous. @nights before we were with friends at a party and when she moved out I called my friend who was there with his wife,i told him that she had moved out and he was like DUDE she seemed fine! That same night at the party she even reached to hold my hand. We are still best friends and love each other...she tells me "she just needs some time to herself". What am i to do?

[NWgirl2013]

In the words of the famous rabbit hunter Elmer Fudd, "Therws Sumthin' Squooey Goin' On Awound Herw"
She is keeping you in the dark on purpose. It sounds awful and is unfair of her to send such ridiculous mixed messages. Holding hands with you for appearance sake and moving out? What the Heck???
I guess I would talk to an attorney. I know that sounds drastic, is drastic, but it is what I would do. She wants carte blanche to come & go in your life and have a secret life too.

I'm sorry. This sounds incredible and sad and she seems very insensitive to not realize how hurtful this is.
I can only wish you the very best as you move forward...